Submitted on Monday, May 05, 2008
By anna, 37, from scotland:

I had been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months and everything had been going well, seeing each other regularly, he was texting me morning, noon and night every day for the whole time i was seeing him. I was quite relaxed about the whole thing and never once put him under any pressure. We had a disagreement (I had a bit of an insecure moment fuelled by a cynical friend, it was entirely my fault and I did apologize profusely about it), and he then said i was putting pressure on him and he was stressed with his work and didn't need any pressure, he then went silent on me. I repeatedly asked if he wanted the relationship to end, he has never said that our relationship is over, but he just said that he didn't know what to think or say at the moment, when i eventually asked him "look, you either want to see me or you don't", all he said was that he didn't know what he wanted and needed to sort things out. This all happened nearly three months ago now. Whenever i text him he never ignores me, he always answers. I had not contacted him there for 4 weeks and then i had an urge to text him a couple of days ago. I just text him saying hello, and that i was still missing his company, and hoped he was ok. He responded immedietly, general convo about how he hadn't been well for the best part of the last 3 weeks and then said that the previous weekend he had been in the pub that I go to. He also ended his texts this time with kisses, which he normally doesn't do, even if i put kisses on mine, he did tho put kisses on his texts when we were seeing each other. My question is this, do you think that this guy is just making polite conversation with me, or do you think he may be starting to come round and have thought things through and get interested again?

VictorM's advice:

It's possible he's interested again. The one way to find out is to stop texting him and see if he texts you.

I say it's possible he's interested, but frankly, it's not likely. Once a guy has to think about things, and it takes over 3 months, that's generally a sign that the magic is gone. And in this last case, you were the one that initiated the texting, not him. That's not very reassuring.