Submitted on Tuesday, May 06, 2008
By Kate, 14, from Boston:

so, this has to deal with the guy from my last question. as we became friends last fall, we grew close quickly and i ended up liking him, but put the feelings aside because the friendship was more important to me. my feelings ended up showing through eventually and ultimately ending our frienship. after a lot of mixed feelings and talking, we cleaned up about 2 months ago, and since then i have been working on moving on. but what really, really bugs me is the guy can’t move on. i have no desire to be friends with him anymore at all, but what he’s been doing has really pissed me off. for months (but more often recently), he’s been telling everyone (it seems) that i have “the hugest crush” on him. i know this because a good number of people have come to me asking if it was true, not to be rude or nosy, but just to confirm. i’ve denied it every time someone’s brought it up because i really no longer like him. i think this is really strange that he seems so obsessed with my liking him. why is he doing this? and, how can i make him stop?

VictorM's advice:

He says it probably because it's his impression that it's true and besides, it doesn't hurt his reputation or his ego.

You could ask him to stop saying it. I doubt he will but it won't hurt to ask.

You could be devilish and admit that you liked him but you lost interest because [pick any or all of the following]: he has bad breath, it seemed like he didn't change his underwear often cause he stunk at time, he didn't know how to kiss, his penis is the side of a pencil eraser, say "yes, I liked him, [laugh really hard] I don't know what was wrong with me."

OK, I don't really recommend the above.

What's the big deal if he says you had a huge crush on him? Yeah, it's an exaggeration but who do you think your friends will believe? Besides, there's nothing wrong with having liked someone.