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Friday, May 09, 2008
He has been acting really distant lately
Submitted on Wednesday, May 07, 2008
By Anna, 24, from VA:
My boyfriend of 6-7 months (he's 23), who I haven’t seen in a while due to hectic work schedules, has been acting really distant lately and avoiding me for the past couple of weeks. When I finally threatened to break up with him he told me that I'm the nicest person he's met, and he's been very stressed about how often we can meet and it's not enough time to get to know a person, and he's very paranoid about not being with me all the time and would rather avoid everything now than deal with possible sadness later.
I tried being reassuring, loving, etc., but no help. Before I lose my boyfriend to his newfound meloncholy, how about of an idea is some tough love? I’m already a pretty outspoken person, so would I completely ruin things if I were to literally slap some sense into this coward and tell him to either pick me and stop moping (he can work on his self-esteem later) or pick his pity party and I walk out the door.
VictorM's advice:
What are you talking about? He was super clear, in a guy sorta way, that he's over you and ready to move on. If he's paranoid, it's not about leaving you, it's about how you would react.
Your relationship is over. He doesn't need tough love; he needs a goodbye kiss... or a kick in the ass. Your choice.
By Anna, 24, from VA:
My boyfriend of 6-7 months (he's 23), who I haven’t seen in a while due to hectic work schedules, has been acting really distant lately and avoiding me for the past couple of weeks. When I finally threatened to break up with him he told me that I'm the nicest person he's met, and he's been very stressed about how often we can meet and it's not enough time to get to know a person, and he's very paranoid about not being with me all the time and would rather avoid everything now than deal with possible sadness later.
I tried being reassuring, loving, etc., but no help. Before I lose my boyfriend to his newfound meloncholy, how about of an idea is some tough love? I’m already a pretty outspoken person, so would I completely ruin things if I were to literally slap some sense into this coward and tell him to either pick me and stop moping (he can work on his self-esteem later) or pick his pity party and I walk out the door.
VictorM's advice:
What are you talking about? He was super clear, in a guy sorta way, that he's over you and ready to move on. If he's paranoid, it's not about leaving you, it's about how you would react.
Your relationship is over. He doesn't need tough love; he needs a goodbye kiss... or a kick in the ass. Your choice.
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