Submitted on Tuesday, May 06, 2008
By Confused, 24:

I have known this guy for about a year now. When i first met him he acted like he was interested in me and even straight up told me that he liked me. The only thing that he had told me though was that he was skeptical about calling me or hanging out with me because he is friends with my brother. To set the record straight him and my brother are not very close friends but they kind of have the same circle of friends and have known each other for a few years. I told him that my brother was cool and for him not to worry. I have given this guy my phone number several times and we have been flirting with each other since we have met. He has not called me. In the year since i have known him he has had 2 girlfriend buy yet he still continues to flirt with me and act like he's going to call me even when i know that he has a girlfriend and he won't. Why would he still flirt with me and ask me for my number repeadely if he has a girlfriend and has no intent on calling me? So now present day its still the same thing we continue to flirt when we see each other except now he's single again. The other week his best friend told me that he liked me and i told his friend that i liked him too. So the next time i see him his friend calls me out and tells him that i like him (totally embarassing). We hang out for the rest of the night and he AGAIN asks me for my number and we kind of make plans but not really set in stone plans because yet again he tells me that he's skeptical because of my bro and my friends. On the exact day (a week later) that he told me that he was going to call me he does! Too bad i was taking a shower and didn't pick up. It says that he left me a voicemail so i listen to it and it just sounds like noise. It sounds like he may have accidently called me because i can hear weird noises in the background and the message is long like he didn't realize that he accidently called me and hung up the phone. I call him back and it sounds like someone picks up the phone but nobody says hello and i hear that weird noise again in the background then the phone hangs up. I call him back a second time and he doesn't pick up, it rings and then goes to voicemail. I didn't leave a message and he didn't call me back. A week later and he still has not called me. What should i do? Even if he did accidently call me how in the hell would he accidently call me on that specific day a week later. I'm thinking that maybe he called me on purpose and just didnt want to say anything? I don't know, it's weird. This guy has also told me that i'm dangerous and that he's scared of me. What does that mean? ALSO the last time i saw him he kept telling me that he wants to take me home and he was rubbing my thighs and ass and he kept staring at me weird. Like he would stare at me smiling and then when i looked at him he would look away. He also kept blowing my hand repeadely and blowing on my neck and making a fart noise. I thought this was really strange but i like the guy so.. Does this mean that maybe he just wants sex from me? Im really confused!!!!!

VictorM's advice:

What is it going to take for you to realize this guy is not interested in you? How many times are you lowering yourself to give him your phone number when it's clear he's not going to call?

Guys flirt with girls like you (that is, girls that like the guy more than he likes her and continue to act like lap dogs even when they are ignored) because they can. Pure and simply, because they can. This guy knows you won't set him straight, and it feeds his ego to know that some silly girl out there has it hard for him.

And why the question about him wanting you just for sex when you're the one pursuing him? It's not to say he wouldn't like to have sex with you, but doesn't sound like he has even tried.

Let's see if you can get this straight: THIS GUY HAS NO INTERESTED IN YOU, SEXUALLY OR OTHERWISE. YOU ONLY SERVE TO FEED HIS EGO AND NOTHING MORE.