Submitted on Tuesday, May 13, 2008
By Hanajay, 18, from UK:

Ok so I've known this guy for about a year not very well but about a month ago maybe more he got my number and non stop we were texting each other for a week. He was saying things like "I've finally got your number I can actually tell you what I think of you with out all the nerves" and "I think that we would be good together" being really sweet. Then one weekend he said he wanted to see me soon, so he asked me if I wanted to go for a walk or something. It was my brother's birthday so I thought I'd invite him (he's close with my brother). Then we both ended up getting way too drunk and ended up sleeping together which both of us know was not meant to happen. He then later on told me he wanted to be friends with me. I saw him the next week in town he was drunk so was I. I was really angry so I called him a player. He said "I'm not a player the only playing I do is cards" and "I just wanted to take it slow". I haven't seen him or spoke to him since but I was talking to his best mate today and I said "how's the player" he replied "he's not a player he just doesn't know how to handle the situation" and "he really liked you but you slept together and you're his mate he doesn't know what to say to that" and "none of it would have happened if you two never slept together." So obviuosly I'm slightly confused on whether I just got played or whether he's scared of commitment or what. Have any ideas??

VictorM's advice:

You didn't get played and he's not afraid of commitment. You simply jumped way ahead of where he's like to be and he was trying to get back to the starting point. But you're being a dick about it.

Chances are he has realized that there's nothing appealing about a girl who gets drunk and acts like a dick. If he's smart, he has moved on.