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Monday, April 21, 2008
My boyfriend recently asked me to control him
Submitted on Friday, April 18, 2008
By kayla, 14, from florida:
My boyfriend recently asked me to control him. I asked him what he meant, he said like tell me what to do (ex: if I forgot my gym bag tell him to go get it and he will). I was like no I'm not gonna boss you around and he said he wanted me to. He said he liked the feeling.. I was kinda freaked out.I don't know why he could possibly want me to do this??
VictorM's advice:
Sounds like he has a submissive personality, which is not the most common thing around, but not as unusual as you might think. There's no need to freak out about it even if it's something you don't like about him.
Some people are totally submissive and won't be happy unless that's the relationship they're in, others aren't as strongly submissive and can bounce back and forth, depending on the partner. It's possible that if you say you don't like it that he'll say OK and not bring it up again.
Just as he was honest about it with you, you should let him know that you don't particularly like it. But deal with it calmly and maturely.
Whatever you decide to do, deal with him respectfully. He deserves that.
By kayla, 14, from florida:
My boyfriend recently asked me to control him. I asked him what he meant, he said like tell me what to do (ex: if I forgot my gym bag tell him to go get it and he will). I was like no I'm not gonna boss you around and he said he wanted me to. He said he liked the feeling.. I was kinda freaked out.I don't know why he could possibly want me to do this??
VictorM's advice:
Sounds like he has a submissive personality, which is not the most common thing around, but not as unusual as you might think. There's no need to freak out about it even if it's something you don't like about him.
Some people are totally submissive and won't be happy unless that's the relationship they're in, others aren't as strongly submissive and can bounce back and forth, depending on the partner. It's possible that if you say you don't like it that he'll say OK and not bring it up again.
Just as he was honest about it with you, you should let him know that you don't particularly like it. But deal with it calmly and maturely.
Whatever you decide to do, deal with him respectfully. He deserves that.
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