Submitted on Tuesday, April 15, 2008
By Marina, 17, from NJ:

We broke up. Basically things have been going rough all week. We kept fighting, nothing was working out. Yesterday I told him I want a break, and for that whole day I was so happy I stood up for myself. I havent been that happy since we started dating. He seems to bring me down. There is a girl who constantly gets in the way. They claim they are just friends but she flirts with him infront of me. I told her to stop it as a joke and we laughed, but this stupid whore told him I got angry at her. He started defending her saying he doesnt believe me because Im always jealous. (this is all through texts) I just dont know where we stand. He gives me mixed signals all the time. First hes happy and we have a great day, then hes so depressed and takes it out on me starting a fight. He blames every fight on me and says its my fault. When we were arguing over that girl situation I got sick of it and told him its over in a heat of the moment type of way. He got so furious a mutual friend told me he was throwing things yelling at everyone the next period. (this was in school) He texted me 3 times after saying very mean things and how everything is my fault and he didnt do anything wrong. I didnt answer. We are two very stubborn people and this fight is so stupid. Basically I texted him 2 hours later saying I just wanted to let him know where I stand, and that I want to be with him, and I want to know where he stands. He said he does not want to be in a relationship right now, and I told him its alright and sincerly told him I hope everything works out well for him. He answered by saying I was talking trash about him with the people at my lunch table when I really wasnt because I dont trust them. (the girl sits at my table) In the end I said I do not want to keep fighting with him, that Im sorry it didnt work out, and that I am not against him. He said he doesnt want to talk right now and I never answered. I really have no reason to stay with him. I don’t know why but I cant stop liking him. I just need to be comforted all the time. I need to feel safe and I need to have someone around. But he hurts me so much. At the same time I cant let go. I want him to myself. I want him to want to be with me. I feel so stupid between him and the girl because she is getting what she wants and I am losing it. I know that there are certain things you can say to a guy to make it right. I want to fix it. What should I do?

Submitted on Wednesday, April 16, 2008
By Marina, 17, from NJ:

Today- he got mad at me because someone walked me to class and when I texted him to have my chapstick back he said he'll give it to the kid when he doesnt know him. he made stupid comments like that. Later on today I found out that he was talking and still is talking to a girl behind my back. I think they hooked up while I was with him. Basically cheated on me. What am I going to do.

VictorM's answer:

Marina... I'm going to have to create a web page just to answer your questions. :-p Actually, why don't you join the forum? You'd fit right in with Monica and Dottie: you all can't let go of guys that don't appear to want you but they can't let go of you either. I'm serious. Join the forum.

Anyway... you know what to do, you just can't muster enough will power to do it. And now pride is complicating the issue. Go back to my earlier advice and try some of the suggestions I gave you. There is no simple answer. Just keep trying.