Submitted on Tuesday, April 15, 2008
By Sheryl, 25, from San Diego:

I like this guy at work. We've gone out 6-7 times the past couple months. He was just out of a long relationship and so was I. He seemed really interested in seeing me earlier, however now I am the one to always take the initiative to set up dates. The past couple times when I ask him, he says he is really busy.The last time he said he was busy and made up the next week, however now it's been 2 weeks and he says he has no time. I've asked him if everything is alright or he just doesn't want to see me and he said no, he is just busy. He's weird, I don't really know what he's thinking. But sure he does touch me in the hallways if he sees me and at the same time he is busy to see me. Honestly, I don't know if he likes me or is just playing around. He has this impression that I'm way too perfect. I just wish men could be more honest.

VictorM's advice:

Men are honest. You just have to learn the language. Let me help you:

"I'm really busy" = You don't really excite me much anymore but maybe it's just a phase and there's no point in burning any bridges by telling it to your face. Besides, you'd probably cry and make me feel like a louse, so I'll just evade you for a while to give me time to decide what to do.

"No, I'm just busy" (after you ask if he lost interest) = "Yes, I'm not that excited about you anymore but I'm not ready to tell you that yet."

Touches you in hallways = Don't get me wrong, I'd still love to fuck you if we could work that out without much fuss.

See? It's not that difficult.