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Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Dress to impress
Submitted on Tuesday, April 15, 2008
By Nita, 40, from OK:
Hi Victor: It has been awhile since I contacted you. I hope I may ask your advice once again (you are always so helpful) on my continuing efforts (details follow).
My earlier correspondence to you was about a man (professional) where I work. You provided terrific suggestions and per your advice, I did wait, and asked him again to lunch. And once again, he was very enthusiastic, smiled, and said, "lunch will be great fun, I look forward to it". He did, however, mention he would be travelling overseas (two trips at the beginning of the term; out-of-the-country for 4 weeks) and that his current teaching load (undergrad/graduate) is very full (100+ students). Between the travelling, teaching/research work loads, etc., it has taken some time, to get a lunch date rescheduled. During this time we have kept up communication, speak to each other when we meet in the hallways, discuss weekend activities, etc., and I still catch him staring at me. An important note: I did find out that his divorce was final in November 2007 and that he has been granted shared custody of his children. Since it isn't my intention to overwhelm the fellow...any advice, comments, help, in this regard is greatly appreciated!
I don't want to appear to be too eager, but, I would like to make an impression (visually) on him. Do you have any suggestions on what I should wear at our lunch? We will both be at work, and my clothing must be work appropriate, but again, I would like to make a impression... Your advice about restaurants was a great idea, and he responded about a new restaurant that he frequents and where we will have lunch.
As always, thanks Victor!!!
VictorM's advice:
This is a hard question because tastes vary greatly. If you wear a low cut top, for example, one guy may find it very sexy while another may find it trashy.
What I would say is dress as sexy as you want to feel, including under garments. That's because whether you realize it or now, you project how you feel. He may or may not pick up on it, but chances are that he will.
There is a certain look that spells femininity -- impeccable hair, clothing that clings to your best features yet leave a lot to the imagination, nice scent, high-heels, tasteful makeup... you know the drill. Go for it; odds are that it will work in your favor.
Oh... and make sure you make light physical contact. For example, when making a point, let the tip of your fingers touch the back of his hand or arm. Do it very lightly and only for a second or two. Touch is a great barrier breaker.
Good luck.
By Nita, 40, from OK:
Hi Victor: It has been awhile since I contacted you. I hope I may ask your advice once again (you are always so helpful) on my continuing efforts (details follow).
My earlier correspondence to you was about a man (professional) where I work. You provided terrific suggestions and per your advice, I did wait, and asked him again to lunch. And once again, he was very enthusiastic, smiled, and said, "lunch will be great fun, I look forward to it". He did, however, mention he would be travelling overseas (two trips at the beginning of the term; out-of-the-country for 4 weeks) and that his current teaching load (undergrad/graduate) is very full (100+ students). Between the travelling, teaching/research work loads, etc., it has taken some time, to get a lunch date rescheduled. During this time we have kept up communication, speak to each other when we meet in the hallways, discuss weekend activities, etc., and I still catch him staring at me. An important note: I did find out that his divorce was final in November 2007 and that he has been granted shared custody of his children. Since it isn't my intention to overwhelm the fellow...any advice, comments, help, in this regard is greatly appreciated!
I don't want to appear to be too eager, but, I would like to make an impression (visually) on him. Do you have any suggestions on what I should wear at our lunch? We will both be at work, and my clothing must be work appropriate, but again, I would like to make a impression... Your advice about restaurants was a great idea, and he responded about a new restaurant that he frequents and where we will have lunch.
As always, thanks Victor!!!
VictorM's advice:
This is a hard question because tastes vary greatly. If you wear a low cut top, for example, one guy may find it very sexy while another may find it trashy.
What I would say is dress as sexy as you want to feel, including under garments. That's because whether you realize it or now, you project how you feel. He may or may not pick up on it, but chances are that he will.
There is a certain look that spells femininity -- impeccable hair, clothing that clings to your best features yet leave a lot to the imagination, nice scent, high-heels, tasteful makeup... you know the drill. Go for it; odds are that it will work in your favor.
Oh... and make sure you make light physical contact. For example, when making a point, let the tip of your fingers touch the back of his hand or arm. Do it very lightly and only for a second or two. Touch is a great barrier breaker.
Good luck.
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Also make lots of eye contact and smile smile smile. Your smile is the most important thing you should wear.
Guys are very very quiet lookers. You never know when they're sneaking a peek at your ah...assets. A subtle way to send a signal that you're ready for action is to dress moderately but put on a real bitchin' pair of shoes. Something that flatters your foot and makes you feel sexy. That way it's not all up in his face, like cleavage. But when you get up and walk to the bathroom, the shoes will make you walk the walk of love. Oh yeah! And he'll notice how you move.
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Guys are very very quiet lookers. You never know when they're sneaking a peek at your ah...assets. A subtle way to send a signal that you're ready for action is to dress moderately but put on a real bitchin' pair of shoes. Something that flatters your foot and makes you feel sexy. That way it's not all up in his face, like cleavage. But when you get up and walk to the bathroom, the shoes will make you walk the walk of love. Oh yeah! And he'll notice how you move.
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