Submitted on Monday, March 24, 2008
By kay, 35, from alexandria:

I've known this guy for 5 years. He told me that he loved me but he went and had sex with his exgirlfriend. He then started acting distant. He told me that if he loved me then he wouldn't have slept with his ex. We still talk on occasion and see one another. I made a promise to myself that I would not sleep with him and he has respected that so far. When I do see him we get really physical and sexual with one another. I told him that I love him but he told me that he didn't return the feelings. When I see him all of this happens in my car. He is 37 years old and says that he can't have company in the house and that he has to be in by 12 or he can't get in the house, but yet his ex girlfriend is welcome. He even told me that he had spent the night with another one of his friends who is a girl but he slept on the couch. The sad thing is I believe him because he wouldn't tell me things like this if he were trying to hide something. The other night I drove to see him after not seeing him for 1 month. He told me that he loved me and that he missed me. Again I believe him. But I haven't heard from him since. Am I being naive to believe everything he says? I am 350 lbs and I am somewhat insecure. Please give me your insight.

VictorM's answer:

Yes, you're being very naive. He'll say what it takes when he's horny for you.