Submitted on Tuesday, March 25, 2008
By Tammy, 19, from Colorado:

I've been seeing a guy who is a marine when he's home on leave going on three years now. There's a lot of chemistry, we have a lot of fun, but he hasn't committed to anything more and I don't know whether to give up or give it a little longer to see how it goes. He emailed me a lot while he was in Iraq. He had flowers, candy, and a stuffed dog sent to me for Valentine's Day. He's home from Iraq now and called me from NC first thing. When he arrived in Denver on leave, he texted me first thing and came and picked me up to hang out. We even watched TV for a while with his dad. A week later, he introduced me to his mom. They are divorced and live in different towns. But, then, a week will go by where I don't hear from him. I know when he's home he has 2 families to spend time with and buddies to hang out with. He's got another year left in the marines and will be stationed in NC. Is be being noncommittal because he's not here? Or, what? What do you think? It would be nice to get a guys perspective on this. Thanks! :-)

VictorM's advice:

I have no idea about his intentions but one week without contacting you, while I understand you don't like it, has no reflection on his feelings for you or his intentions towards you. When a guy gets immersed in something (work, hobby, friends, family, etc) times flies.

Guys are notorious for focusing on one thing at a time. Guys don't have to need to be told they're loved all the time and that you're thinking of them, and lots of guys don't realize that most girls aren't the same way.

He pays you lots of attention, introduced you to his loved ones, and feels strongly enough about your relationship that constant contact isn't needed.

That's a guy's perspective for you.