You must be sick of me by now, but I find your help invaluable even though my questions are somewhat trivial! :) so thanks.. this time, my question is still related to my ex..

we went to a party last night- my best friend, my ex and all of his friends. My ex was sitting outside on the deck with his head in his hands, so my maternal instinct kicked in, and I went to check if he was feeling OK. Turns out that he was sick (a mixture of a cold and too much alcohol at pre-drinks!!) and I went to the bar and got him a glass of water- nothing really. After that, I was talking to my friend and one of my ex's friends, and my ex came up behind me and put his arm around my waist, like he used to when we were going out and stayed like that for about 2 minutes while we were all talking. His friend looked at him and he dropped his arm, but then whispered in my ear "thanks for the water, it was really sweet of you. I also got out of work next weekend so I can come to your party, looking forward to it."

OK so I might be reading too much into it and he could be playing with me, but do I forget it? His friend asked if I would start dating him and my excuse not to was that I wanted to sort out the problems with my ex first seeing as it was such a messy break-up.

Any pointers would be great thanks Victor!

VictorM's advice:

Yeah, you're reading too much into it. You got him water, it was sweet of you, and he said so as a way fo thanking you for doing it. That's all.

By the way, messy break-ups have a very low record of turning around and yielding successful relationships. There are reasons why the break up was messy and those reasons aren't likely to have gone away.