I have a guy friend who's been acting odd. I think he gets jealous when I try to talk to other guys. He's been giving me the silent treatment for weeks now (won't return my calls, emails, messages)... the man totally dissapeared. I want to be friends with him. Do guys usually want to be just friends with girls? Suppose I would consider dating him, what should I do? I haven't talked to him for a while and I don't even know his schedule. Oh yea and about the guy in my class, we talked today but he acted very uninterested so I'm confused. I appreciate your advice.

PS I was the girl that posted the link for my pictures. I added more pictures so you can have a good assessment. I feel that there are SO MANY pretty girls that I don't measure up to, so how come this 'intimidation'?? I am wayyy more confident about school than my looks.

VictorM's advice:

Hey, miss stunning is back. :)

Let me address the last point first... Confidence. When it comes to looks, that's all you lack. Why you don't have it beats me but I'm sure the reasons go deeper than I can address here. The intimidation part comes from the guys' minds. It has nothing to do with whether there are prettier girls or not; it just has to do with a guy thinking that you're too pretty to be single or to give him a chance.

Don't take the one guy seemingly uninterested or your friend's silent treatment as signs that those guys don't like you. Guys are notorious for giving the cold shoulder to girls they like. It's a way of both getting into her mind and seeing if she notices it. Of course, if the guy is shy or angry at you for some reason, he may not follow-up, but in any case, just don't dismiss the possibility that they like you.

As for you friend... well, if he's not responding, I don't know what to tell you. Sometimes people just outgrow their friends, for a variety of reasons. Do guys like being friends with a female? Not really. Guys don't have the same needs as girls do for someone to talk a lot about anything other than sports and sex. In most cases, what poses as friendship is just a guy putting an effort into getting close to a girl they find attractive. Yes, yes, I know there are exceptions, but a guy seeking friendship for friendship sake with a girl as attractive as you? Very rare!

As for the guy you like... don't give up. Maybe he really is not interested in you, but that doesn't mean he can't become interested. Maybe he just needs more assurances that the brainy beauty really does like him. So don't give up. Even if he still doesn't change his mind, at least you're talking and getting out of your shell, and that's a good thing.

(And to the people who requested to see Alexandra's pictures... the answer is NO! They're mine, all mine! haha :))