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Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Super blow job girl is back
Submitted on Tuesday, February 19, 2008
By Griz, 24, from Miami, Fl:
Greetings! It's me again. :) So, here's the situation so far with the guy I had mentioned earlier:
- I found out he's been recently divorced (Nov. was when he finalized the divorce). I don't know any details about the divorce. I would rather not ask at the moment and just let our dynamic unfold.
- We've been seeing each other at least once a week for about a month and a half. Each time has been him coming along with me and my friends. He tried getting me to hang with him and his friends once, but I had other plans.
- We chit-chat a lot via texts (remember, I don't like gabbing on the phone much). It's kind of a daily thing.
- Ever since our first date, there hasn't been any overtly sexual contact between us. We kiss and hug, but nothing TOO steamy.
- I've told him straight out that I just want to keep our relationship "chill;" told him he's the only guy I'm 'dating' at the moment but if someone else should come along, he should understand that I want to keep the lines open, since I know he's going through the emotional aspect of getting over the divorce.
- He's always the first to text me, ask what I'm doing, ask if I'm going out. But he has yet to ask me on another one-on-one date.
So, what do you think so far? Is there something I should or shouldn't be doing? I really want to take it slow with this guy, both physically and emotionally. I've never had to deal with a recently divorced guy, so any help would be appreciated. Thanks! :)
VictorM's advice:
Don't get me wrong, Griz, I like hearing from you, but why do you ask me anything when you are doing so well by yourself? I'm afraid to say anything and screw things. Just stay the course.
Greetings! It's me again. :) So, here's the situation so far with the guy I had mentioned earlier:
- I found out he's been recently divorced (Nov. was when he finalized the divorce). I don't know any details about the divorce. I would rather not ask at the moment and just let our dynamic unfold.
- We've been seeing each other at least once a week for about a month and a half. Each time has been him coming along with me and my friends. He tried getting me to hang with him and his friends once, but I had other plans.
- We chit-chat a lot via texts (remember, I don't like gabbing on the phone much). It's kind of a daily thing.
- Ever since our first date, there hasn't been any overtly sexual contact between us. We kiss and hug, but nothing TOO steamy.
- I've told him straight out that I just want to keep our relationship "chill;" told him he's the only guy I'm 'dating' at the moment but if someone else should come along, he should understand that I want to keep the lines open, since I know he's going through the emotional aspect of getting over the divorce.
- He's always the first to text me, ask what I'm doing, ask if I'm going out. But he has yet to ask me on another one-on-one date.
So, what do you think so far? Is there something I should or shouldn't be doing? I really want to take it slow with this guy, both physically and emotionally. I've never had to deal with a recently divorced guy, so any help would be appreciated. Thanks! :)
VictorM's advice:
Don't get me wrong, Griz, I like hearing from you, but why do you ask me anything when you are doing so well by yourself? I'm afraid to say anything and screw things. Just stay the course.
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Recently divorced guy? Could be lonely. Could be desperate. Could be OK.
It's a real roll of the dice. Just keep it cool. Have your feelings grown for him at all? You seem to be playing it cool just to, you know, play it cool. Which is fine. But you keep writing in about him, so you must feel something. Or more something. Keeping him at arm's length will only work for so long.
Your fear of screwing things up might, in the end, screw things up.
It's a real roll of the dice. Just keep it cool. Have your feelings grown for him at all? You seem to be playing it cool just to, you know, play it cool. Which is fine. But you keep writing in about him, so you must feel something. Or more something. Keeping him at arm's length will only work for so long.
Your fear of screwing things up might, in the end, screw things up.
# posted by 
: 10:20 PM
: 10:20 PM
I definitely like him, thats for sure, but I don't know if I have "feelings" for him just yet. I see that there is definitely a potential for something to grow, but I'm taking it at a snail's pace, not only for me, but for him as well.
I am the girl that usually jumps right in and gets emotionally attached. But that has never worked out for the long run. So this time, seeing as I really like this guy, I decided to just take it reaaaally slow and be patient.
We don't really talk about his divorce at all. I don't know any of the gory details and I don't want to ask. If someday he feels comfortable enough with me to let me in on his emotions and all that, that's fine. But, honestly, 2 months is hardly enough time to demand or have emotional attachment with one another. In my opinion, anyway.
I am the girl that usually jumps right in and gets emotionally attached. But that has never worked out for the long run. So this time, seeing as I really like this guy, I decided to just take it reaaaally slow and be patient.
We don't really talk about his divorce at all. I don't know any of the gory details and I don't want to ask. If someday he feels comfortable enough with me to let me in on his emotions and all that, that's fine. But, honestly, 2 months is hardly enough time to demand or have emotional attachment with one another. In my opinion, anyway.
# posted by : 11:19 AM
: 11:19 AM
you are wise not to talk about his divorce with him at this time. you don't want to be his therapist. Same token, don't chat much about your former lovers. seems you are keeping it fun and are slowly pulling him your way, kinda like a belly dancer captivating her audience: slow, sexy, not pushy and very seductive. :) you will soon reap the benefits of your patience!!
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