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Saturday, February 23, 2008
My complicated love story
Submitted on Thursday, February 21, 2008
By frances, 32, from philippines:
Okay here goes my complicated love story.. I currently have a relationship with a man who is way older than me and I mean, he's about 20 years older than me.. We've been seeing each other for about 2 years now. He is a widower and has grown children and grandchildren. Unfortunately, his kids don't want him to re-marry anymore. I think the reason is because they are filthy rich. I have grown to love him over the years.
When I started working, I met someone. We've been seing each other for about a year now. We broke up then got back together again. And this guy has a girlfriend and a they have a kid together. They are living together and he goes home to them over the weekends.
We've been seeing each other only here in the office. We almost had sex but we engage in oral sex already. The problem is, I'm having feelings for him already. I don't know if he feels the same way I do. I'm not expecting that he'll leave his girlfriend and kid for me. I'm afraid to ask him about it the real score between us. What do you think?
VictorM's advice:
I think you're a glutton for punishment, or maybe you really don't want a serious relationship, hence your attraction to guys you can't keep.
You're afraid to ask him because you already know the real score: you're just an office fling to him.
By frances, 32, from philippines:
Okay here goes my complicated love story.. I currently have a relationship with a man who is way older than me and I mean, he's about 20 years older than me.. We've been seeing each other for about 2 years now. He is a widower and has grown children and grandchildren. Unfortunately, his kids don't want him to re-marry anymore. I think the reason is because they are filthy rich. I have grown to love him over the years.
When I started working, I met someone. We've been seing each other for about a year now. We broke up then got back together again. And this guy has a girlfriend and a they have a kid together. They are living together and he goes home to them over the weekends.
We've been seeing each other only here in the office. We almost had sex but we engage in oral sex already. The problem is, I'm having feelings for him already. I don't know if he feels the same way I do. I'm not expecting that he'll leave his girlfriend and kid for me. I'm afraid to ask him about it the real score between us. What do you think?
VictorM's advice:
I think you're a glutton for punishment, or maybe you really don't want a serious relationship, hence your attraction to guys you can't keep.
You're afraid to ask him because you already know the real score: you're just an office fling to him.
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Victor is right about the office fling. And the reason you brought up the older guy is because you feel that you can always go back to him (who's your daddy?), despite the fact that you will probably never be married to him. Even if you marry the older guy, there will probably be a big, fat pre-nup agreement. Do yourself a favor, get yourself a guy that is REAL relationship material. You deserve a hot, passionate, available man to rock your world!
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: 5:01 PM
: 5:01 PM
Unfortunately, his kids don't want him to re-marry anymore. If that's the type of relationship he has with his kids, then you don't want to be mixed up in that mess anyway. When people marry, they don't just marry that one person, unfortunately. It's a package deal. The kids would probably do everything in their power to make your life miserable.
And I don't get it. This other guy has a gf + baby and you're giving him blowjobs? Man, is HE lucky. I can guarantee you that all he feels is lust for your mouth while you think you are developing "feelings" for him.
Do you suffer from low self esteem? Seriously...do you? You are looking for love in all the wrong places, and instead of selecting men who will love you and give you the appropriate attention and affection you so obviously crave, you've got these opportunistic dirtbags. They are USING YOU.
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And I don't get it. This other guy has a gf + baby and you're giving him blowjobs? Man, is HE lucky. I can guarantee you that all he feels is lust for your mouth while you think you are developing "feelings" for him.
Do you suffer from low self esteem? Seriously...do you? You are looking for love in all the wrong places, and instead of selecting men who will love you and give you the appropriate attention and affection you so obviously crave, you've got these opportunistic dirtbags. They are USING YOU.
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