By Brenda, 20, from pennsylvania:

hi =) i just have a question .. i was hanging out with my guy best friend and my girl best friend the other night were sitting in his car- then halfway through, he gets up and comes and sits in the back with me. we end up staying and just chillin and listening to music for an hour. me and him were leaning into eachother but not sitting close to eachother and my friend just moved her passanger seat back to be like "with us". then as a few minutes went by, we started leaning in closer. i do like my guy best friend, a LOT. and there's always ways that show he might like me to. we have a long history of being friends, but also very very flirty friends. people always ask if there's something going on between us, cuz he treats me differently. and looks at me romantically, but with respect cuz he knows i have morals and such. i know a guy can flirt with anything and anyone, lol but it's just weird. like as we were sitting in his car- he would like touch under my chin, and then when he was in the back seat with me, he pushed my head on HIS shoulder, then put his head on top on mine, and we just sat like that for a good 10 minutes. then later on, he got up, and layed on my lap. his head was on my thigh.. and he would look up at me, and i was playing with his hair/head and when lyrics to a song would come on, he would sing a little louder and touch my knee.. like the lyrics were "i can't breathe when you touch me.." and he like caressed my knee. AHH. lol and stuff.. and it was just.. adorable. and at one part- he put his arm behind his head, but like pulled mine down, so his arm was on my shoulder? but our faces were like right by each other .. it was comfy =) haha but still it was soo weird, and my friend was like "yeahh that's awkwardly sexual?" and he just kept his hands and stuff where they were. and he said i was teasing him cause i was showing my bra to my girlfriend when he wasn't looking, then cover myself quick when he would =) haha. but idk we stayed like that in his car from 12:0Oam-3:0Oam.. just him laying on me.. touching and rubbing my knee, starring up at me, laughing, talking, and it was just so nice.. BUTTTTt besides that night, he's been saying how he wants to get back with his ex girlfriend.? and the other night (after this) he was just watching tv at her house, but texting me seeing what i was up to. which i thought was cute but weird, cuz he was thinking about me after this night.. but idk i feel like he's teasing me, but does have real feelings for me like i do toward him underneath but is scared to lose our amazing bond/friendship if we kissed and such. but idkk it was too flirty to be "comfortable friends".. & he's a guy so i know he'd get sex outta his ex g/f but not from me -- yet anyways cuz i have morals and such.. but idkk what do you think?? gahhh help? :) thanks.

VictorM's advice:

You're so cute it's sickening. Yuck! :-p

Yeah, it's wonderful... the games, the light touching, the "what ifs" that run through your mind... it's great fun. Those are magical moments you never want to end. Yes, there is something erotic about it, but mostly it's a warm and fuzzy feeling. And he's in no rush to spoil it.

There are different types of girlfriends: the ones you just want to play with, and the ones you fantasize being the mother of your children. If you fall in the second category -- and it sounds like you do -- he'll move very slowly on you. First, he needs to get the first type out of his system.

And the talk about his ex-girlfriend? It's nothing. Guys often say stuff like that to the girl they like to see if there's a reaction. Makes us feel more wanted. Dumb logic, I know, but we all do it.