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Wednesday, February 20, 2008
I am 15 and I like someone who is 20
Submitted on Tuesday, February 19, 2008
By jessica, 15, from united states:
I am 15 and I like someone who is 20. We both have feelings for each other but because of the age difference we have to wait until I am 18. He said that when I am 18 if I still have feelings for him than we should make the relationship serious. But I'm worried that when the time comes he will have found someone new. Is it wrong for us to like each other? And should we wait? I mean age is just a number so cant we just try to make it work now?
VictorM's advice:
The age difference by itself isn't the issue -- 5 years is not much; it's your present ages that complicate things. He's about to turn 21 and be free drink, and to go to bars and clubs that you can't go. You'd either be slowing him down, or you'd be left alone. Chances are that you have curfews and he doesn't, neither do girls around his age. And you'd be hanging around with a different set of friends with different interests.
But I think the major reason, as far as he's concerned is this: his interest in you may be sexual, hence his preference to wait till you're 18. What I'm saying is that his interest in you may not be as noble as you think it is.
By jessica, 15, from united states:
I am 15 and I like someone who is 20. We both have feelings for each other but because of the age difference we have to wait until I am 18. He said that when I am 18 if I still have feelings for him than we should make the relationship serious. But I'm worried that when the time comes he will have found someone new. Is it wrong for us to like each other? And should we wait? I mean age is just a number so cant we just try to make it work now?
VictorM's advice:
The age difference by itself isn't the issue -- 5 years is not much; it's your present ages that complicate things. He's about to turn 21 and be free drink, and to go to bars and clubs that you can't go. You'd either be slowing him down, or you'd be left alone. Chances are that you have curfews and he doesn't, neither do girls around his age. And you'd be hanging around with a different set of friends with different interests.
But I think the major reason, as far as he's concerned is this: his interest in you may be sexual, hence his preference to wait till you're 18. What I'm saying is that his interest in you may not be as noble as you think it is.
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