Submitted on Friday, February 22, 2008 By Sara, 25:

While at a bookstore with a guy I have been casually dating for sometime now (a little under a year or so...not exclusive but I hope we will be eventually...we're getting there)...he was looking at a magazine. He came across a sex article which had a photo of a very attractive blonde girl. She was lying on a bed wearing a tiny, lacy tank top and veeeeery skimpy underwear. My date was obviously impressed and was like "Whooooah....this is hot. Damn...She's hot....Seriously, look at what she's wearing. Woooooow." And he kept flipping back to that page. He also has told me who his celebrity crush is and how hot she is. At movies he tells me when one of the actresses is hot. I have told him which male celebrity I have a crush on as well, but only because he asked me. I don't however excessively talk about my celeb crush or any other guys right in front of the guy I'm dating, though. Well, my date however practically jacks off to these pictures right in front of me at the borders bookstore!....LOL....Ok, I'm exaggerating for dramatic effect, but you catch my drift! He makes it obvious he's liking what he sees. I told a friend about this and she was like, "He's probably just trying to make you jealous." But I really DON'T think he was. He would show me the piture in the magazine for example, but I don't think I noticed him glancing up at me for my reaction at all though....I really think he was just so taken by her, that impulsively, he had to show me...I DO KNOW that there is NOTHING WRONG with him having crushes on, or getting horny over some other girl (PARTICULARLY If she is a celebrity or girl in a magazine that he will likely never meet)...but it just makes me uncomfortable and jealous. I mean he has told me I'M hot, and whatever....He takes pictures of my ass and boobs while we play sports at the bar if I'm not looking. (He's never seen me naked...but I have worn low cut tops in front of him and tight jeans, etc.)And he wrote on my facebook wall once that he thinks I'm beautiful. So I think he finds me attractive...But when he shows me these pictures of SUPERMODELS, and DROP DEAD GORGEOUS DOUBLE D CHESTED GIRLS....Of course I'm insecure that THAT'S what he finds attractive. I am always told I am attractive by others...I have modeled a bit for small companies...Hoewever...I can't help but feel like "How can I possibly measure up to THAT???" Of course he likes them and likes looking at them....they are BEAUTIFUL. And I like looking at a good looking male as much as any other staight female, and I do....But does he have to tell me anytime he thinks one of these girls is basically turning him on? Can't that be his own little private thought to himself? Why tell me?

VictorM's advice:

He tells you because in his mind you have no reason to be jealous at all or feel that you don't measure up. Getting you jealous is not the intent. He simply sees something that he finds beautiful and wants to share it with you. Yeah, it's a naive thing to do, but hey, in the simple mind of guys, that's what's going on. I bet he'd be shocked to know it bothers you.

At least when he talks about crushes and other girls he's communicating with you. You're the one that needs to tell him that you'd prefer if he kept it to himself. If you do it nicely ("I have no problems with you looking at those pictures and having celebrity crushes, but I'd prefer if you didn't tell me") he should get the message.

How old is this guy? 15, 16? :-p