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Sunday, February 24, 2008
How can I ask him for his phone number without seeming too pushy?
Submitted on Friday, February 22, 2008
By Chris, 22, from Texas:
I’ve learned that love finds you in some of the oddest ways. My story has to be the most unusual one that you will hear. But before I get to that... I want you to keep in mind that I am a 22 year-old beautiful woman. Finding love closer to me has never been a problem... but I NEVER expected for something like this to happen. I’ve met this wonderful man through myspace around Christmas ‘07. He lives in California and I’m in Texas (I’ve been saving up for the past 3 months so I can move to California... this was my plan before I met him). We write each other every chance we get (we both lead busy lives). We would talk about friends... family... our jobs... and what we did for fun. We have common ground... but we have differences. He’s given me advice when I needed it and I know that I can trust him. He’s told me that he likes to read my messages and that I’m an interesting person and someone very special to him. He even has me as number 4 on his top friends list. Well... for the past four weeks... I’ve been getting “butterflies-in-my-stomach” when I see a new letter from him. Three weekends ago... we were on myspace at the same time so we IM-ed each other. During our conversation... I told him that I love to cuddle but I couldn’t find someone who felt the same. He told me “you found me” and I didn’t know how to take it so I left it alone. He wanted to make me soup ‘cause I was sick. We didn’t talk for very long... but before he left he said that he was going to cook for our date tomorrow. He said “let’s meet in our dreams” and said that he would be back on the next day. He sent me the hug and kiss emotion and then logged off. We did talk the next day... but not for very long. He was tired and wanted to sleep. He kept on telling me how bad he felt about leaving. I told him that I was fine by it and told him to catch up on his rest. He told me that he would talk to me later and I let him know that I looked forward to it. He left a smiley face with hearts in the eyes. Sent the kiss emotion and logged off. If we are not online at the same time... we end up writing letters to each other throughout the week. Well... I wrote him a really long letter. I told him about the passing of my grandmother and why it’s important to let the people around you know that you care. I sent him a really sweet and simple e-card as a thank you for helping me with the advice. He wrote me a short letter that started out with “Hello my love”... something that he never did before. In this letter he tells me that he liked the e-card and letter a lot. And then he says... “I just hope that you aren't too upset with me for not being on for such a while. I really haven't forgotten about you at all.” He ends the letter with “love” and his name. Like the “Hello my love”... saying “love” before his name never happened until this point. I know it sounds stupid... but I am really beginning to care for him. I just feel like there is something special between us. I don’t know what he feels for me and I am too nervous to flat out ask. I am usually not like this. I am the type of person who is not afraid of anything... I am NOT shy... and I usually speak my mind. I’ve tried to shake this... thinking that it might be an infatuation... but I can’t. This has never happened to me and I don’t know what to do. I’m going to ask him for his number... but I don’t know how. The words he wrote to me makes it seem like he’s interested in me. I know that he’s a shy around girls... but I want to know if he is interested. How can I get him interested in me? I want to ask him for his number... but I don’t want to scare him away. How can I ask him for his phone number without seeming too pushy? I REALLY want to talk to him other than through myspace and hear his voice. Please... help me.
VictorM's advice:
You really think that a guy who would be scared away by you asking for his phone number is worth a submission this long, not to mention the infatuation you display?
How do you ask him for his phone number? You don't have to. Simply say that chatting on myspace is fun but you'd like to hear his voice. If he doesn't offer to talk to you on the phone right away, you should be the one to run away scared!
By Chris, 22, from Texas:
I’ve learned that love finds you in some of the oddest ways. My story has to be the most unusual one that you will hear. But before I get to that... I want you to keep in mind that I am a 22 year-old beautiful woman. Finding love closer to me has never been a problem... but I NEVER expected for something like this to happen. I’ve met this wonderful man through myspace around Christmas ‘07. He lives in California and I’m in Texas (I’ve been saving up for the past 3 months so I can move to California... this was my plan before I met him). We write each other every chance we get (we both lead busy lives). We would talk about friends... family... our jobs... and what we did for fun. We have common ground... but we have differences. He’s given me advice when I needed it and I know that I can trust him. He’s told me that he likes to read my messages and that I’m an interesting person and someone very special to him. He even has me as number 4 on his top friends list. Well... for the past four weeks... I’ve been getting “butterflies-in-my-stomach” when I see a new letter from him. Three weekends ago... we were on myspace at the same time so we IM-ed each other. During our conversation... I told him that I love to cuddle but I couldn’t find someone who felt the same. He told me “you found me” and I didn’t know how to take it so I left it alone. He wanted to make me soup ‘cause I was sick. We didn’t talk for very long... but before he left he said that he was going to cook for our date tomorrow. He said “let’s meet in our dreams” and said that he would be back on the next day. He sent me the hug and kiss emotion and then logged off. We did talk the next day... but not for very long. He was tired and wanted to sleep. He kept on telling me how bad he felt about leaving. I told him that I was fine by it and told him to catch up on his rest. He told me that he would talk to me later and I let him know that I looked forward to it. He left a smiley face with hearts in the eyes. Sent the kiss emotion and logged off. If we are not online at the same time... we end up writing letters to each other throughout the week. Well... I wrote him a really long letter. I told him about the passing of my grandmother and why it’s important to let the people around you know that you care. I sent him a really sweet and simple e-card as a thank you for helping me with the advice. He wrote me a short letter that started out with “Hello my love”... something that he never did before. In this letter he tells me that he liked the e-card and letter a lot. And then he says... “I just hope that you aren't too upset with me for not being on for such a while. I really haven't forgotten about you at all.” He ends the letter with “love” and his name. Like the “Hello my love”... saying “love” before his name never happened until this point. I know it sounds stupid... but I am really beginning to care for him. I just feel like there is something special between us. I don’t know what he feels for me and I am too nervous to flat out ask. I am usually not like this. I am the type of person who is not afraid of anything... I am NOT shy... and I usually speak my mind. I’ve tried to shake this... thinking that it might be an infatuation... but I can’t. This has never happened to me and I don’t know what to do. I’m going to ask him for his number... but I don’t know how. The words he wrote to me makes it seem like he’s interested in me. I know that he’s a shy around girls... but I want to know if he is interested. How can I get him interested in me? I want to ask him for his number... but I don’t want to scare him away. How can I ask him for his phone number without seeming too pushy? I REALLY want to talk to him other than through myspace and hear his voice. Please... help me.
VictorM's advice:
You really think that a guy who would be scared away by you asking for his phone number is worth a submission this long, not to mention the infatuation you display?
How do you ask him for his phone number? You don't have to. Simply say that chatting on myspace is fun but you'd like to hear his voice. If he doesn't offer to talk to you on the phone right away, you should be the one to run away scared!
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Simple... "I'd really like to know what your voice sounds like. Let's exchange phone numbers and chat sometime."
# posted by 
: 1:14 PM
: 1:14 PM
Vic... you can't help it, you're a guy! I think what Chris here wants to know, BESIDES how to ask him for his tel. number, is if you think he feels something for her and what may that be.
How can I tell? Easy: she wouldn't have given you so many details if she didn't want to know what you or other people get from her relationship with this guy. Be nice and give her the answer she's looking for hehe
We're complicated, remember? You just ask... we happen to be more "subtle".
How can I tell? Easy: she wouldn't have given you so many details if she didn't want to know what you or other people get from her relationship with this guy. Be nice and give her the answer she's looking for hehe
We're complicated, remember? You just ask... we happen to be more "subtle".
Look at the amount of detail she included in her submission. Look at all the mushy comments she claims this guy has made to her. Notice all the mentions of the word "love" used by him to her. Notice how much attention she claims he gives her and how much effort she implies he is making. OBVIOUSLY there is at least soooome type of emotional involvement going on here. He must feel (or at least think he feels) something for her. Then again, he could just want sex...but in my experience, if a guy hasn't recieved sex at this point after investing so much time and effort into a girl...he would usually have moved on by now.
# posted by : 1:51 PM
: 1:51 PM
Mariana, you smartypants! :)
OK, OK...
I'm skeptical of online relationships when a guy dwells too much on sex or too much on lovey-dovey stuff. I'm not saying he's not sincere; I'm just saying using text is too easy. Text requires virtually no effort so any guy can be a Don Juan with several women at once.
I didn't want to get too much into the "is he interested in me" question because he may or may not be. For the reasons I explained above, it's hard to tell.
Now, if the same effort is put into the phone, that's a different story. The phone requires more work. And I believe that to be an act of love, it requires work, otherwise, it's just self-gratification. That's why I focused on answering the phone question.
If the guy doesn't want to talk on the phone, than all of his texting means nothing and the sooner Chris finds out, the better. If, on the other hand he's eager to talk to her, than the likelihood that she and him have "something special" goes up.
(Mariana, send me an email or submission telling me what you think of Gallardo, and possibly Claudio Lopez coming to MLS. I'm curious about your opinion.)
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OK, OK...
I'm skeptical of online relationships when a guy dwells too much on sex or too much on lovey-dovey stuff. I'm not saying he's not sincere; I'm just saying using text is too easy. Text requires virtually no effort so any guy can be a Don Juan with several women at once.
I didn't want to get too much into the "is he interested in me" question because he may or may not be. For the reasons I explained above, it's hard to tell.
Now, if the same effort is put into the phone, that's a different story. The phone requires more work. And I believe that to be an act of love, it requires work, otherwise, it's just self-gratification. That's why I focused on answering the phone question.
If the guy doesn't want to talk on the phone, than all of his texting means nothing and the sooner Chris finds out, the better. If, on the other hand he's eager to talk to her, than the likelihood that she and him have "something special" goes up.
(Mariana, send me an email or submission telling me what you think of Gallardo, and possibly Claudio Lopez coming to MLS. I'm curious about your opinion.)
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