Submitted on Friday, February 22, 2008
By kee, 30, from richmond:

I was in a good relationship with this really great guy. The problem is that he used to call me every night,then he started calling maybe 3 times a week. We used to spend every weekend together, then he seemed to disappear and not call. So I started messing around with a guy who I used to like. We had sex and I also messed around with my current guy. I got caught up and I ended up with an STD and I had to tell my current guy. Well quite naturally he found out I had messed around because he was negative and I couldn't believe it because I used protection with the other guy and not him. Well, he broke up with me because he said that he could not trust me. I was really hurt, but then he called me one night and we started back talking and we had sex but of course he used protection then he stopped using it again. Does this mean that he really wants to be with me or is something else going on. Please help me to understand.

VictorM's advice:

I laughed at the end of your submission. It's not that I was making fun of you, it's just that it amuses when I see a woman trying to make a connection between a man's sexual behavior and his feelings.

All it means is he wants to fuck you, and he prefers to do so without a condom. And that's all it means. To know if something else is going on, you have to look for other signs.