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Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Did I blow it, or is he really not interested?
Submitted on Sunday, February 24, 2008
By Candela, 37, from New York:
How do I erase this mistake with him?
Met "Z" online, ignored him for a while . He wouldn't give up and finally we talked on the phone forever, had a great connection and set up a Sunday afternoon to meet.
I don't hear from him Friday or Saturday, so I figured he blew me off and forgot about it. Sunday he leaves text messages about the date, which I don't get, so in effect I guess I blew him off. He starts emailing me. I get back to him we hang out finally (Saturday night dinner and I drove to his neighborhood) . Incredible date, I'm naming our future kids on the way home.
He calls me the next day, asks me if I'd like to do it again. Gives no specifics. I go nuts for 5 days. Like an IDIOT I email him, we end up setting up a second meeting. He texts me to postpone the time (helping a friend put up curtains?) I start to refuse, he insists that we still meet. He calls back later to postpone the date for the next day (this time was something I believe is legitimate), I tell him no, I have plans. He tries to make it anyway, I forget it, I'll change my plans. We meet for drinks and make out a tiny bit. He left the next day to visit family, he's coming home Tuesday.
I know I'm an idiot. I deleted all his contact info so I'm not tempted, but is there anyway to salvage this by ignoring him, did I blow it, or is he really not interested?
VictorM's advice:
Either I have major comprehension problems, you left out a portion of the story, or you're losing your marbles, but I have no idea what you're really asking me. I'm particularly confused by "is there anyway to salvage this by ignoring him." Maybe this submission makes sense to the female mind and female visitors will be kind enough to translate it from "girl talk" to "making sense". :)
Sorry, but I don't know what to tell you unless and until the question makes sense to me.
By Candela, 37, from New York:
How do I erase this mistake with him?
Met "Z" online, ignored him for a while . He wouldn't give up and finally we talked on the phone forever, had a great connection and set up a Sunday afternoon to meet.
I don't hear from him Friday or Saturday, so I figured he blew me off and forgot about it. Sunday he leaves text messages about the date, which I don't get, so in effect I guess I blew him off. He starts emailing me. I get back to him we hang out finally (Saturday night dinner and I drove to his neighborhood) . Incredible date, I'm naming our future kids on the way home.
He calls me the next day, asks me if I'd like to do it again. Gives no specifics. I go nuts for 5 days. Like an IDIOT I email him, we end up setting up a second meeting. He texts me to postpone the time (helping a friend put up curtains?) I start to refuse, he insists that we still meet. He calls back later to postpone the date for the next day (this time was something I believe is legitimate), I tell him no, I have plans. He tries to make it anyway, I forget it, I'll change my plans. We meet for drinks and make out a tiny bit. He left the next day to visit family, he's coming home Tuesday.
I know I'm an idiot. I deleted all his contact info so I'm not tempted, but is there anyway to salvage this by ignoring him, did I blow it, or is he really not interested?
VictorM's advice:
Either I have major comprehension problems, you left out a portion of the story, or you're losing your marbles, but I have no idea what you're really asking me. I'm particularly confused by "is there anyway to salvage this by ignoring him." Maybe this submission makes sense to the female mind and female visitors will be kind enough to translate it from "girl talk" to "making sense". :)
Sorry, but I don't know what to tell you unless and until the question makes sense to me.
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In addition to not being able to recognize a question in that submission, I'm not even sure I really get what the problem is. According to you, Candela...the guy is pretty much actively pursuing you, even though YOU feel you've blown it with him for whatever reason. However, he keeps asking you on dates. So he's going out of town...you say he's coming back...actually according to your post he should have returned by now. But I'm confused...do you want to hear from him again or not? Because you talk about wanting to "salvage this" (salvage things with him is what I thought that meant..)..but if you are looking to fix things, (still not sure what you're attempting to fix, but...) why would you delete all of his contact information and consider ignoring him? I'm confused. Unless the problem is that you DON'T wish to hear from him again...but if that's the case, it is confusing that you would end your submission wondering 1. if you blew it, and
2.If he's interested in you..
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2.If he's interested in you..
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