One night we all went to a club I got a bit drunk and we ended up kissing and later having sex with Alex. After we finished we started talking, he told me he is going through a lot his ex is pregnant with his child and he had no idea what to do and didn’t even know if she was telling the truth because he said she lies a lot and she has lots of problems. After that night we did go out again and we decided we will be just friends because it’s all very complicated. We did end up kissing the same night and the next night we decided to go out.

After that he went back to his country to visit the ex he came back changed he never calls or going anywhere. I do see him often because of my work he is always very polite etc. I saw him at my work last week I figured he wasn’t well!! I went home and couldn’t get him out of my head I messaged him if one of this day we could go for a drink. He answered: that would be really nice and he called me few hours later and arranged when. We did go for drinks last night ...didn’t have much to say, he was all smiling and talking and trying to be funny we didn’t talk about as at all I didn’t really want to. ...the only think I said it's that I was angry with him that’s why I asked him to go for a drink because I can't be angry with him anymore. He said he knew it but he didn’t want to try to fix every time he tries to fix something he makes it worst....don’t know what to do with him ...actually I do ...it's leave him alone he has enough in his head to also have me...but it's difficult!

VictorM's advice:

It's difficult but it is the wisest course of action. You have no other choice.

All signs point to him not being into you, he just wants things to be civil and nice between you two. And hey, if after a few drinks he gets some sex, that's icing on the cake.