Submitted on Tuesday, January 22, 2008
By jessica, 24, from tennessee:

There is a guy I work with that I think likes me, but I'm not sure. He's admitted to me that he's been wondering about me ever since he first saw me and even asked me for my email address and we talk at work and after work. It's really funny, because it's like he says enough to keep my interest, which I feel like he's flirting with me, but not sure.

Then the other day, he tells me he has a girlfriend and they live together, but he'll spend hours late at night emailing me and asking what I'm doing. He'll ask me questions he already knows the answer to or will find any excuse to talk to me.

He notices I wear a ring on my ring finger and always asks about my situation. I'm really puzzeled because I can't tell if this guy likes me or what?...He's always looking at me and coming up with crazy nicknames for me, but what I don't understand is why he won't just express his interest and why he's acting this way...any suggestions???

VictorM's advice:

Of course he could have an interest in you, but since he has never expressed and he has a girlfriend it's safest to assume is interest in you is limited to a passing the time kinda thing. I mean, he can find you funny, cute, interesting, nice to talk to, etc. without wanting to be with you romantically.

I don't know if that's the case here but it's not at all uncommon for guys to ask questions, tease, flirt, etc just because it helps them pass the time at work, and what better to do it than with an attractive girl? And if you give him equal attention, it's a nice ego boost for him, so he seeks that attention whenever possible.