Maybe he wants you to make a tape of you fucking someone else so he can have a really good reason to hate you. I mean, sure he dumped you, but maybe he can't stop thinking about you. And that makes him angry. So he needs a reason to move on.

Sounds weird, I know, but it's been known to happen.
 

Victor, Hi! It's Shannon,
NO, I did not cheat and no, he did not cheat and I have told him the truth-he was the best ever in bed, and he feels the same about me in that dept. (so, really, why would I cheat?) and truly, I've always paid him the highest regards in every way- I am a very positive person :). He has stated previously that I am an incredible, wonderful person. Seems like he is angry at me, too, but I have no idea why. The only thing I can think of is that he ended up having more feelings about me than he intended to?

By the way, here is the other part of the conversation I neglected to share. I actually found this part quite unsettling and have tried to forget his prediction ...

During the conversation, he asked if I 'wanted' to marry him? (He wanted to know how much I cared for him). I told him my answer (yes) and then he responded that it is tough enough on his family being worried about him and he doesn't want to hurt anyone else and it would not be fair to leave his wife and his child to receive the knock on the door (from the service official) that he had been killed in the war (he has served in Iraq and will most likely be going back in the near future). So, Victor, now that you have more information, maybe, I have painted a bigger picture for you that you can give me more of your perspective on and clear things up for me. By the way, my cell-phone recorded a 'missed call' from the ex just yesterday, but he did not leave a mesage and I left it at that and have not tried to contact him.

Thanks again! I love Argville and appreciate how you help so many people, like me!

To Princess,
Thank you for your input! As weird as it is, it totally makes sense and is a good possibility that you are correct. Thank you!
 

With this additional piece of information, another possibility I can think of is that he's trying to help you get over him by being an asshole? Could it be?

Yet another possibility... could he have thought you only wanted him for sex?

Other than that, I'll go back to what I said before... he's angry for some reason and if that's the case, never mind his words -- he'll say anything to hurt your feelings.

Oh well... I have a hard time figuring out military folks anyway. :)
 

it is tough enough on his family being worried about him and he doesn't want to hurt anyone else and it would not be fair to leave his wife and his child to receive the knock on the door

OK. One of two things. One, he's using this an excuse (and that whole weird sex tape request) to push you away. He's obviously scared to death of being in a serious relationship. Two, maybe Victor's right and this guy really is just a jerk.
 

By jove, Victor, I think you've got it! I had made a comment that offended him once in reference to 'when are we going to sleep together again'? I couldn't figure out why he got bent out of shape about it, especially being a guy, I never thought something like THAT would offend! Bet you are right, he thought I really only wanted him for sex, and that is not true at all.

Princess, yes, you are right on, as well. I do feel pushed away :( Thanks to both of you in helping me figure out what is going on.
 

Shannon... this guy sounds defective. If he's that hung up about sex, he probably has other views about your role (female) in society; I bet sex is not the only thing he thinks he should be the one to have all the say.

Replace with with a functioning unit.