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Sunday, January 20, 2008
Do I stand a chance at nabbing this guy?
Submitted on Thursday, January 17, 2008
By Griz, 24, from Miami, Fl:
Hey, it's me...blowjob girl. :)
So, here is the status thus far:
- We sporadically chit-chat and message each other online and send each other random text messages, but we don't talk on the phone. I'm not much of a gabber; much rather be with the person and talk
- He asked me to go to dinner with him on Tuesday, I turned him down (had to do other things)
- He asked again to go to dinner yesterday, turned him down but invited him to meet me later to play pool
- We played pool and flirted with each other. Later we ate, made-out and groped each other, but no full-on contact.
Now, he was trying to get me to go over to his house afterward to "play Wii." I'm not stupid and know exactly what that meant. I turned him down, but stayed with him for about an hour or two in the parking lot, chatting and kissing.
My question is this: do I stand a chance at nabbing this guy for reasons other than anything sexual? I mean, I think he's a great guy. I obviously like talking to him and being with him. But am I going about it the right way?
What's the smart thing for me to do to let him know that I'm interested in HIM and not just sex with him (though that would be pretty bad-ass too, but just way later in the game).
VictorM's advice:
I don't know why you're asking me because frankly, I think you're doing great on your own.
Every guy is different but damn, a girl who gives "something else" blow jobs, plays pool, doesn't demand phone minutes, and is not clingy? Sounds like he hit the jackpot!
I just don't understand how you can pass up a chance to play "Wii" :)
By Griz, 24, from Miami, Fl:
Hey, it's me...blowjob girl. :)
So, here is the status thus far:
- We sporadically chit-chat and message each other online and send each other random text messages, but we don't talk on the phone. I'm not much of a gabber; much rather be with the person and talk
- He asked me to go to dinner with him on Tuesday, I turned him down (had to do other things)
- He asked again to go to dinner yesterday, turned him down but invited him to meet me later to play pool
- We played pool and flirted with each other. Later we ate, made-out and groped each other, but no full-on contact.
Now, he was trying to get me to go over to his house afterward to "play Wii." I'm not stupid and know exactly what that meant. I turned him down, but stayed with him for about an hour or two in the parking lot, chatting and kissing.
My question is this: do I stand a chance at nabbing this guy for reasons other than anything sexual? I mean, I think he's a great guy. I obviously like talking to him and being with him. But am I going about it the right way?
What's the smart thing for me to do to let him know that I'm interested in HIM and not just sex with him (though that would be pretty bad-ass too, but just way later in the game).
VictorM's advice:
I don't know why you're asking me because frankly, I think you're doing great on your own.
Every guy is different but damn, a girl who gives "something else" blow jobs, plays pool, doesn't demand phone minutes, and is not clingy? Sounds like he hit the jackpot!
I just don't understand how you can pass up a chance to play "Wii" :)
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Thanks for the encouraging words. I just needed some fortification via a male's perspective.
The reason I ask is because I have had trouble in the past getting to the heart of the matter. I either hold the potential interest at arm's length and act cold with them so as to show I'm not a hussy and then lose their interest, OR I dive into the situation too quickly, get physically involved too quickly, and then lose their interest as well.
It's kind of frustrating for me as a woman to have to work through this whole male thing...their tendency to block themselves off emotionally by getting physical with the female early on. I want to know how to weave my way around and find a balance between the two, you know? I want to get through to him emotionally and see if we're compatible at THAT level before I allow myself to fuck the shit out of him, pardon the vulgarity.
Catch my drift?
I just want to know where I should draw the line in terms of physical/emotional shit. By making out with him and letting him grope and tease and such but not getting into bed with him, am I sending the wrong signals? Mind you, both times we've ended up doing that stuff at the END of the night, not all through.
The reason I ask is because I have had trouble in the past getting to the heart of the matter. I either hold the potential interest at arm's length and act cold with them so as to show I'm not a hussy and then lose their interest, OR I dive into the situation too quickly, get physically involved too quickly, and then lose their interest as well.
It's kind of frustrating for me as a woman to have to work through this whole male thing...their tendency to block themselves off emotionally by getting physical with the female early on. I want to know how to weave my way around and find a balance between the two, you know? I want to get through to him emotionally and see if we're compatible at THAT level before I allow myself to fuck the shit out of him, pardon the vulgarity.
Catch my drift?
I just want to know where I should draw the line in terms of physical/emotional shit. By making out with him and letting him grope and tease and such but not getting into bed with him, am I sending the wrong signals? Mind you, both times we've ended up doing that stuff at the END of the night, not all through.
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: 4:08 PM
: 4:08 PM
Griz,
Your prior relationships didn't work out because they weren't the right match, not because of how you went about it.
Finding the right mate is not easy. When you do find the right match, none of the relationship games we play will matter. So don't play the games. Just do what instinctively feels right. The wrong guys will move on, the right guy, when you meet him, will find everything you do just perfect.
There's something to be said for waiting to fuck a guy until he gets a chance to know you better, but in the end, if you are a very sexual being, be sexual. Again, the wrong guy will find you too forward, the right guy will find you amazing and fuck the shit out of you too and you two can live happily sharing body fluids. :)
Don't think of the guys that came and went before as a failure on your part; think of it as finding and disposing of the wrong guys to free you to find the right one. And hey, why not have some fun during the search?
You don't sound like the type of girl that would be happy with a sexual tight-ass anyway.
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Your prior relationships didn't work out because they weren't the right match, not because of how you went about it.
Finding the right mate is not easy. When you do find the right match, none of the relationship games we play will matter. So don't play the games. Just do what instinctively feels right. The wrong guys will move on, the right guy, when you meet him, will find everything you do just perfect.
There's something to be said for waiting to fuck a guy until he gets a chance to know you better, but in the end, if you are a very sexual being, be sexual. Again, the wrong guy will find you too forward, the right guy will find you amazing and fuck the shit out of you too and you two can live happily sharing body fluids. :)
Don't think of the guys that came and went before as a failure on your part; think of it as finding and disposing of the wrong guys to free you to find the right one. And hey, why not have some fun during the search?
You don't sound like the type of girl that would be happy with a sexual tight-ass anyway.
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