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Tuesday, January 08, 2008
DAMMIT! I promised myself I wouldn't do this with him
Submitted on Tuesday, January 08, 2008
By Griz, 24, from Miami, FL:
So, here's the situation:
Some random guy sent me a message online. We messaged each other back and forth, lots of small talk, in the course of about 3 days. He asked me out on a date, I accepted.
One week later we met up. He was a gentleman--held the door open for me, payed for dinner, helped me while walking through the streets (it had rained and my shoes were not allowing me to walk humanly!)--and he eventually got comfortable enough with me to put his arm around my waist.
We had the conversation going the whole night; lots of laughs, playful teasing, and always kept the conversation light. About 3 hours into our date (yes, it lasted that long) he gave me a kiss. In the sprinkling rain, nonetheless.
We walked, hand-in-hand, back to his car and he asked if I had a curfew, told me straight up "I don't want to take you home yet." He took me to a nearby beach and parked...and that's when I think the shit doth hitteth the fanneth.
Things got hot and heavy really quick. I tried, to the best of my abilities, to control myself. But I was really physically and mentally attracted to him. Time and time again I avoided his advances to just pounce on me, but I eventually gave in. After about 2 hours just making out in the car, we got to the point where it was just too much and we had to satisfy one another...he gave me a rubbing, I gave him a blowjob.
DAMMIT! I promised myself I wouldn't do this with him. I promised myself I wouldn't give off that impression, but I did.
Did I blow (no pun intended!) my chances of really nabbing this guy? Or am I still in the game? I haven't communicated with him for about 3 days.
VictorM's advice:
He got a blow job in the car on the first date? Damn, what am I doing wrong!?
Did you blow it? Well, it depends on what type of guy he is. If he's the type to imagine you giving a blow job to every guy you date, chances are you blew it. If he feels you only did it because he was so irresistible, chances are that he's moving on to the next conquest. If, however, he thought you were the coolest, loved your company, and feels that you being sexual is a big plus, well, this type of guy can't wait to call you and tell you how much fun you are and wanting to make sure that you go out with him again. Oh, wait. No contact in 3 days? Doesn't sound like this is the case, does it?
Yeah, I get the feeling you blew it. But, wait. Some guys don't like to appear too eager, so wait till later in the week before erasing him from your buddy list.
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By Griz, 24, from Miami, FL:
So, here's the situation:
Some random guy sent me a message online. We messaged each other back and forth, lots of small talk, in the course of about 3 days. He asked me out on a date, I accepted.
One week later we met up. He was a gentleman--held the door open for me, payed for dinner, helped me while walking through the streets (it had rained and my shoes were not allowing me to walk humanly!)--and he eventually got comfortable enough with me to put his arm around my waist.
We had the conversation going the whole night; lots of laughs, playful teasing, and always kept the conversation light. About 3 hours into our date (yes, it lasted that long) he gave me a kiss. In the sprinkling rain, nonetheless.
We walked, hand-in-hand, back to his car and he asked if I had a curfew, told me straight up "I don't want to take you home yet." He took me to a nearby beach and parked...and that's when I think the shit doth hitteth the fanneth.
Things got hot and heavy really quick. I tried, to the best of my abilities, to control myself. But I was really physically and mentally attracted to him. Time and time again I avoided his advances to just pounce on me, but I eventually gave in. After about 2 hours just making out in the car, we got to the point where it was just too much and we had to satisfy one another...he gave me a rubbing, I gave him a blowjob.
DAMMIT! I promised myself I wouldn't do this with him. I promised myself I wouldn't give off that impression, but I did.
Did I blow (no pun intended!) my chances of really nabbing this guy? Or am I still in the game? I haven't communicated with him for about 3 days.
VictorM's advice:
He got a blow job in the car on the first date? Damn, what am I doing wrong!?
Did you blow it? Well, it depends on what type of guy he is. If he's the type to imagine you giving a blow job to every guy you date, chances are you blew it. If he feels you only did it because he was so irresistible, chances are that he's moving on to the next conquest. If, however, he thought you were the coolest, loved your company, and feels that you being sexual is a big plus, well, this type of guy can't wait to call you and tell you how much fun you are and wanting to make sure that you go out with him again. Oh, wait. No contact in 3 days? Doesn't sound like this is the case, does it?
Yeah, I get the feeling you blew it. But, wait. Some guys don't like to appear too eager, so wait till later in the week before erasing him from your buddy list.
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Ladies, ladies, ladies. This is why you need a good strong vibrator to use frequently during the day before a (potentially) hot date at night. It's like eating a meal before going grocery shopping. Having a full belly may not be as much fun once you get to the store, but you won't spend as much money on junk food.
That being said, you didn't necessarily screw up. I had a first date with a guy where I basically got waaay too hot and wound getting naked and letting him touch me everywhere (yes, even THERE) and by the end of the date I had a horrible crushing feeling that he would think I was a HUGE slut and would never ask me out again. I even cried and begged him to not think of me as "that kind of girl."
Long story short? We've been together for 16 years.
Happy ending, to be sure. Whether or not yours works out? I hope you at least get a second date. Let us know what happens!
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That being said, you didn't necessarily screw up. I had a first date with a guy where I basically got waaay too hot and wound getting naked and letting him touch me everywhere (yes, even THERE) and by the end of the date I had a horrible crushing feeling that he would think I was a HUGE slut and would never ask me out again. I even cried and begged him to not think of me as "that kind of girl."
Long story short? We've been together for 16 years.
Happy ending, to be sure. Whether or not yours works out? I hope you at least get a second date. Let us know what happens!
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