Submitted on Tuesday, December 25, 2007
By Kalissa:

Hi this is Kalissa again, from the submission titled "Out of nowhere he started to distance himself."

The day after submitting that, he wrote me a long email just checking in, asking about my weekend...told me hed seen some of my new photos on facebook and told me I was "looking real good. ;-)" We ended up hanging out that night..(christmas eve) at a bar...then he came to my place and hung out with me on the couch until 2am. Before leaving he said that it had been one of his better christmas eves to date. Today he messages me again on facebook and left me messages on instant message, but I wasn't logged on. I'm still very much into him...what should my next move be? I don't want to seem over eager if the chase is part of the fun...

VictorM's advice:

Make sure this was not just a "I'm lonely over the Holidays" type thing on his part. Other than that, rest assured that the chase is part of the fun.

There's no need to play games but you do want him to get to know you better and allow himself to feel closer to you before you start doing typical girly stuff like: giving him too much attention, declaring your feelings, and "gulp* asking the dreaded "where are we headed?" question.

Be too busy for him once in a while, and pay him light compliments (he shouldn't be the only way to say that "you look good" or similar things). But this is important: compliments to guys must be pleasant observations about physical stuff. Do NOT get mushy and say things like: "you're the kindest guy I ever met." Guys don't daydream about being told: "You're so nice". They want to hear stuff that makes them feel manly, like: love your chest, that shirt looks great on you, I like your haircut, great car, you make me so wet ;), etc. Keep compliments light, keep them about physical things.