Submitted on Sunday, December 30, 2007
By ada, 33:

Hi Victor, I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. He had strong financial problems before and I was born in a wealthy family, but I am not rich. In the past, we always fight over the money issues. He always needs money from me and thought I had lots of money. We separated in the past three months and we are back together now. The problem here is he became very successful in his own bussiness now and he wants to be with me. He said he wants me to make some money too and invite me to be in the partnership for 20% (he has no problem with money). I said I don't have much money, but it is nice to do so. Then, later, he said it is OK if you don't want to invest money, that later, his money will be mine also. I tried to test him if he really means so, so I said I would invest 20% but he gives me 5% more. He said "no". That hurts me because what he said is not what he meant it. He said business is business, but I want to be treated special. In the past, I always asked him to return me money, and he thinks I always make money very clear with him. By that time I was not rich and I was not sure if he loves me for real. Please correct me if the way I think is wong. I don't want there is a big gap between us because of the money matter if one day we get marry. Thanks!

VictorM's advice:

Oh boy... what a mess. Money and love don't mix. Throw in testing your partner and you really have a relationship bound for disaster. Given the behavior of you two, I don't see you being able to get over it. But if it's possible, it's the way he says it: business is business. Keep your financial situation out of your relationship.

If money is not the driving force in your life, take your money and invest it somewhere else.