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Monday, December 31, 2007
He woke me up by kissing my neck
By Julie, 29, from Orlando, FL:
Hi Victor,
I've been hanging out with this guy since the beginning of November. We have been intimate with each other on several occassions. The other night I spent the night at his place. In the middle of the night he woke me up by kissing my neck then he told me he loved me. I thought he was talking in his sleep so I asked him what he said, and he said he loved me again. About a minute later he was back to sleep. The next morning I asked him if he rememebered kissing my neck in the middle of the night, and he told me no. I didn't ask about what he said. Do you think he was just talking in his sleep? I'm confused because he not only said it once but twice. Thanks for your help.
VictorM's advice:
It's totally possible that he doesn't remember. Here's a quote about sleepwalking (if indeed is the case with him):
Sleepwalkers may merely sit up, or they may get out of bed and wander. Sleepwalking typically occurs in the first few hours of sleep. The sleepwalker's eyes are open, but they usually have a blank expression on their face and walk with a rather rigid, unsteady gait. Sleepwalkers may walk around the house, eat or go to the bathroom. Some even get dressed and leave the house, but this occurs only rarely.
While sleepwalking, they can avoid obstacles, respond to commands, and perform complex actions like making sandwiches or arranging furniture. The sleepwalking episodes last from a few minutes to about a half hour. Usually they will return to their bed for the night. However, some come to rest in a hallway, another room or someone else's bed. Since they are sleeping during the whole episode, there is usually no memory of what happened when they wake up in the morning.
Now the question is, Did he mean what he said in his sleep? Well, this get a little dicier. It's possible that the answer is yes, or that he feels like he can love you but is not ready to say that for sure. So I wouldn't jump to any conclusions yet.
Men. Just can't be held accountable for anything they say under the influence of a beautiful woman.
*rolls eyes*
: 11:31 AM 
: 11:46 PM I think that he meant it when he said, whether he was asleep or wake. But a guy can really feel that he loves you at a particular moment, specially in a situation like that, but that doesn't translate to the kind of 24 by 7 kinda love needed for a relationship.
The burst of "love" emotion can be triggered by the warmth, safety, comfort of a moment, yet not feel quite that strong in the morning. But, if anything, it's a step in the right direction.
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