Submitted on Thursday, December 27, 2007
By sara, 28, from uk:

yep i know you're right with him not wanting more than sleeping with me 1-2 a week etc....although i don't get what you mean about him being direct with me cos he was saying and doing things for a long time which indicated a bit more than that, wasn't he?

i ended it all a few days ago....told him i wasn't up for the casual thing anymore. he did the whole i don't do feelings for anyone line again....this was all via text etc.

anyway....when i got up the next morn he'd messaged me on msn to say....i'm deleting your number so i don't call you up again cos you want more...is that ok? (i was set as online on msn so he thought i was there at the time)

why did he message me that?? thats like calling someone up to say you're not going to speak to them again....totally pointless in my opinion...so why??? haha!

i'm now doing no contact with him....his number is deleted and he's blocked on msn now...which is fine glad i found out now that he's not worth my time seeing as he was enjoying punishing me for being a bit cautious at the start....

also....one more question....when i would tell him why i liked him etc...he would say that he was embarrassed at what i'd said....said that he wasn't used to women meaning what they say and it was all bullshit....is this a line too? or has he just got some self esteem issues here?? lol..

thank you for all your advice....kinda bummed that he didn't want to go out on a date with me...but plenty more monkeys in the zoo i guess!

VictorM's answer:

I said he was direct because in your last submission you felt he had been treating you as a fuck buddy. Clearly if you felt that way it means he has never promised you more. From what you've said before, sounds like he never said he was ready for a relationship.

Lots of people have real problems dealing with compliments. They feel that even merely saying "Thank you" is a form of narcissism. It doesn't have to mean self-esteem problems, although in most cases it probably does; often it comes more from being raised to be humble.