Submitted on Friday, December 28, 2007
By abbi, 15, from lincon:

Me and this guy I sit with in class had a lil flirting thing going on then it died down but it recently started up again online. He told in the past that he likes me but that he wouldn't go out with me. And now he justs wants to have sex with me and that my breast are amazing. Yeah it was in the begining but now I just want to have real converations and not talk dirty all the time. But he only wants to talk naughty to me. Plus he likes this girl and considers her girlfriend material. Now I really like this guy. How can I get away from all the sexy part and get him interested in me as a girlfriend type. Because I don't think I'm that bad of a person. I like my personality.

VictorM's advice:

Find out what things he's very interested in (sports, movies, music, video games, etc.) and try to talk to him about those things. Ask open ended questions and give him a chance to show you how much he knows about them. Guys love to impress this way.

Guys look for different things between the girls they like to have fun with and the girls they think of as girlfriend material. If you don't want to be a fun toy only, you must put a stop to the sex talk.

I don't know if he's ever going to think of you as girlfriend material, but I suggest that you: 1) Don't respond to his sex talk, 2) Bring up topics of interest to him, and 3) Get off line if he persists with the naughty talk. In the process, he may just stop talking to you altogether. If he does, at least you'll know he was only interested in one thing.