By Sandy, 26, asks:

Okay, so does it sound as though this guy likes me or not? We speak daily and have been on several dates. There is a "flirtiness" to the way that we act with each other. We tell each other nearly everything. We have just about EVERYTHING in common, so much so that people say we should be personality twins. When we go out he insists on paying, opening doors, that type of thing. When it was cold out on our last date, he offered me his jacket. Yesterday we had plans, but due to no reservations could not get into where we wanted to go so he suggested instead that we go out with his group as he has wanted me to meet his friends anyways. I took that as a good sign. He had mentioned having me meet them once before. (The group we met up with consisted of very important people to him, including his best friends since preschool) Long story short, it went extraordinarally well! Obviously everyone there was under the impression that we were on a date, as I assume we were too. They wanted to take pictures of me and him together and asked the questions such as "where did you 2 meet?" Also one of them referred to me as the guy I was with's date. I noticed that he was slightly less flirty than usual in front of his friends, but still so sweet and incredible to me. He is not extremely flirty anyways, usually it's little subtle things or comments. My gut says he was probably just being a bit shy towards me in front of them, as he is shy in general. Several times throughout the date, we broke away from the group to spend time on our own. We also left on our own. After about 5 dates with him now, (about) he has not made a move on me....such as tried to kiss me. We always end with a hug, which is fine, but my brother seems to think most guys would have tried for a kiss by now. He asked if I had a good time, and suggested that we get together again soon, and that next time we should try to make it just the two of us. So what do you think...is he interested? I think a lot of what he does implies yes, but am startled by some of his hesitation. On the other hand, although I really do like him, I am not even entirely certain that I am ready to kiss him at this point. But I wondered if the lack of an attempt at a kiss at this point seemed unusual, or am I perhaps just over-reading it? We have been good friends for about 4 months now, like I said, in touch pretty much daily.

VictorM's advice:

This guy really likes you and he's in no rush to speed up the courting phase. Most guys like to take things slow, giving themselves enough time to get to know the girl and sweep her off her feet in the process. He's doing it at a pace that seems consistent with a guy who really likes the girl and does not want to spoil it or rush it. On top of it, is also shy. Further, maybe he is picking up on your vibes that you may not be ready for kissing him yet. Don't discount that maybe he knows you better than you even imagine.

I know that most guys would say that they would have tried to kiss you already, but that's just the way guys talk anyway (your brother is no different). Don't listen. Enjoy this guy, and enjoy the slow pace of things. When you do kiss, it's going to be awesome!