By sars, 29, from uk:

Right well....I'm having a bit of a panic here ha ha....just spoke to him on msn and he told me that he may take one of the girls out tomorrow for lunch. I'm so jealous I didn't really know what to say to him so made a joke about me bowing out gracefully. He laughed and said I'm not a competition! Then he said he was off to bed...

I just don't know how to say what I want to say to him online....and it's not as if we're going to see each other face to face either. I'm at a total loss as to how to handle this....or when to say I'm serious and how to say it etc. to me he's just telling me he's not interested by telling me he's taking someone else out on a date. He's not mentioned what I said to him...so I guess he's not interested really? God, I'm so frustrated!!! Part of me wants to say to him....have I got a chance with you or not? He's so hard...and he told me that he doesn't do dates with anyone...and now he's taking this girl out....so shouldn't I just get the hint that he can't be bothered to take me out or move things up a notch?

How do I react to him when he talks about other women? And am I really just risking making an idiot of myself if I tell him how i feel?

sorry to go on!

VictorM's advice:

You were so panicked that you typed your own name incorrectly. :) And if you didn't make the same mistake on your age, you had a birthday since we last "talked". If so... HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SARA!

Well, I don't know if you typed this submission before you saw my last reply to you. If you didn't read it yet, click the link and go read it. If you read it and aren't following my advice, I don't know what else to tell you. You're on your own now. :)

But anyway, he keeps talking about taking other girls out because he's still "punishing" you for bruising his ego.