Or maybe he's just not that into you.

If a guy really wants to see you, he'll suggest some kind of plan for meeting up: coffee, movies, ice cream. I mean, c'mon! If the guy is around your age (mid-30s) he's gotta have some kind of clue rattling around in that head of his.
 

Let me guess... you're female, right?

Obviously you didn't pay attention to what she said: he doesn't plan anything! Doesn't matter what you think he should think; it matters what he does, or in this case, doesn't do.

Yes, I know, you want to use a hammer and "fix" the guy instead of adapting to the guy. And next time her car breaks down and he says, call the mechanic, are you gonna make him take mechanic classes?

How hard is it to her to say, let's go for ice cream?
 

All I'm saying is that guys are not the carefree and clueless children you make them out to be. If he wants something bad enough, he'll make a plan.
 

If he calls and texts all the time, you don't need him planning dates to know he's into you. Period. Now, back to your concern:

I know exactly how you feel because my boyfriend never plans anything either. Actually I've been trying for the past 7 months to make him plan something. Well... guess what... still not working.
And you know why I hated the fact that he never took the time or effort to plan dates? Because I love doing that! So I understand planning dates as a display of interest.

Here's the thing: you can try talking to him and telling him it'd be nice if he came up with some new activities every now and then, or just ask him what he'd like to do or where he'd like to go with you but that's pretty much all you can do.
Maybe he's just lazy, maybe he wants you to plan dates cuz that way he makes sure you're going to have fun.

When I asked my boyfriend to "put some batteries on" and think about our dates, he simply said: honestly, you have great ideas and I pretty much like doing anything with you. So bottom line? He's like that and won't change it. Although he is now thinking of some ideas but only because I wanted him to.

Anyway, if you feel like it, tell him to think of something he'd like to do with you and maybe you'll lead him where you want to. Hope I helped. Good luck!
 

"All I'm saying is that guys are not the carefree and clueless children you make them out to be. If he wants something bad enough, he'll make a plan."

Being a planner is a personal trait that not everyone has. Some guys are funny, some are not. Would you demand that a guy who is not funny make you laugh? Would you insist that some guy write poetry just because you think it's easy? Would you demand that someone who is tone deft sing in tune?

Some guys are not planners. Some guys are not funny. Some guys can't write poetry. Some guys are not observant. Some guys are absent-minded. That doesn't make them lazy or children like.

Of course, some people are intolerant when others can't do something they find easy to do. The inability to see beyond yourself is a personality trait as well.
 

I was only trying to offer Karry a different point of view. It would seem that I have inadvertently struck a nerve.

Karry, best of luck to you.
 

Actually, Victor is quite good at planning activities of all sorts. ;) I can personally vouch for him. So if you did strike a nerve, it wasn't in that area.