Janelle, 15, from california, asks:

Do guys that are players ever change? I've liked this guy for awhile but I keep holding myself back because he is a player. I always have these fantasies that he will change but I'm not sure. Also, why do guys become players? Wouldn't they rather have one girl to themselves?

VictorM's advice:

Most guys, specially around your age, are not ready to settle with one girl. It's like you going to a shoe store and trying only one pair of shoes. Not likely, is it? There are a lot of other reasons why a guy may like lots of girls, mostly having to do with sexual attraction, because as he's looking for experience, variety is a plus. You learn a lot more being with many girls than you do with just one. Remember, at this time guys aren't looking for the girl they'll marry; they're just looking to excite the toy they found between their legs.

Guys generally "play" (meaning, go from girl to girl) until such time as they find one that truly stands out. Until they find her, what else are they suppose to do? Sit at home and knit? No! They go out and date girls looking for Ms. Right.

Most guys change once they find a girl worth changing for. Some guys never do. Your job is to weed out the ones that never do and hope the guy that you settle on is willing to also settle. Getting that perfect match is not easy, more so when you're only 15-years old.