Alyssa, 16, from Long Beach, asks:

Hey vic, remember me?

Well last I wrote I mentioned hugs and being more than friends the hugs aren't such a big mystery anymore but still being more than friends, how does any girl know??

Lately me and the guy I mentioned last have become better friends and I think I generally like him as one and possibly more than a friend. Him, I'm not so sure. In the past week or so he's walked me home twice and I live farther than him and I've actually been to his house where I met his friends, his mom, and grandpa and step-grandma and saw him skate on his board and he showed me all these tapes of him and his friends skating. Now my problem is still the same: is he thinking of me as a friend or more than one?

All my friends say he wouldn't be interested in me if he didn't do all those things but I'm scared that even if he does like me, will he make a move? He told me of his last girlfriend in 8th grade who I actually knew but wasn't really friends with and he hasn't had a girlfriend since. (We're both in 11th grade now). And when I got home he left me a message hoping I didn't get in trouble since I stayed late and offering me to come over again to watch a movie we talked about. I said yes but he didn't reply back so today we talked about it and he gave me a choice of just borrowing the movie or going to watch it at his house. Now, why did he give me a choice all of a sudden?? And when he dropped me off at home again he made a funny comment saying "man now I have to find the movie and everything." At the time I didn't know he was playing around so I replied "oh fine then be like that forget it" but right before he left I saw him (where he couldn't see me) and there was this smile on his face... and I have no idea except that he was trying to make me squirm. So what is he doing? Meaning does he want me to come over?? And if so, does he like me more than a friend? And finally what should i do?? And why did he change the offer all of a sudden? thanks vic (sorry it's so long)

VictorM's advice:

He gave you a choice with the movie so you wouldn't get in trouble. He's just being considerate. You left him a message and he didn't reply. I would think for one of two reasons: one, your message was not a question requiring a reply; or two, he ate something that messed with his intestines and he got a severe case of diarrhea and was stuck in the bathroom for hours. Hey, you never know.

Sounds like he likes you but that doesn't mean he's ready for a boyfriend/girlfriend thing, so he'll be friendly, stay close, and who knows, maybe he'll make a move when he's ready. Boys do take their time making a move so you have to be patient. Everything else is just you over analyzing what is very normal behavior for a boy.