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Tuesday, October 16, 2007
She's in quite a mess of feelings
jessica, 24, from orlando, asks:
Well I'm in quite a mess of feelings. I moved to Orlando with my fiance whom I feel "safe" and love him in a way that's... well, I love him but I'm not sure if I'm in love with him. Where it gets worse is I get a job bartending where a fellow bartender whom is older by 11 years has been showing quite some interest. One night we went out after work and I got pretty smashed. We ended up at his house. We made out and he felt me up before I came to my senses and took a cab home. He insisted I stay at his house but I left. The next day wasn't too awkward. He asked me if I was "in trouble", I told him that I spoke with my fiance and gave the ring back because I don't think I'm ready for marriage. I left it at that. I really like this bartender, but I don't know if my promiscuity blew my chances.
VictorM's advice:
Unless you omitted stuff that happened that night, I see no promiscuity at all.
What you might be wondering is about being "smashed". I don't know too many guys who get serious about a girl and find it attractive that she gets smashed. Maybe it's difference in a world of bartenders but I wouldn't rule out that he's turned off by people who drink stupidly.
Well I'm in quite a mess of feelings. I moved to Orlando with my fiance whom I feel "safe" and love him in a way that's... well, I love him but I'm not sure if I'm in love with him. Where it gets worse is I get a job bartending where a fellow bartender whom is older by 11 years has been showing quite some interest. One night we went out after work and I got pretty smashed. We ended up at his house. We made out and he felt me up before I came to my senses and took a cab home. He insisted I stay at his house but I left. The next day wasn't too awkward. He asked me if I was "in trouble", I told him that I spoke with my fiance and gave the ring back because I don't think I'm ready for marriage. I left it at that. I really like this bartender, but I don't know if my promiscuity blew my chances.
VictorM's advice:
Unless you omitted stuff that happened that night, I see no promiscuity at all.
What you might be wondering is about being "smashed". I don't know too many guys who get serious about a girl and find it attractive that she gets smashed. Maybe it's difference in a world of bartenders but I wouldn't rule out that he's turned off by people who drink stupidly.
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