Lucy, 18, from Brisbane, Australia, asks:

Hi Victor

I've been friends with this boy for a month or so, and we keep in contact through texting/parties etc, and its fairly obvious that we like each other. He has repeatedly asked me to catch up, but he always asks me the night before he wants to see me, or to make it even worse, that night! I keep saying, "sorry, I'm busy" because he never gives me warning and I am actually busy! He has stopped asking me to catch up, and I think that he has lost interest. We are finishing our last year of high school, so it is important to do well in our exams in 3 weeks time, and then the week after his friends and my friends are going away to the beach to celebrate. (I might add here that the reason that we're going together is because I said I was going to go away that week with my friends, and then he said he wasn't, but wanted to, so I suggested that he book a hotel too).
I'm wondering whether you think that he's put off that I keep saying I'm busy, therefore he's lost interest, or if he's just waiting for that week when we go away to really get to know each other?

Thankyou!
Lucy

VictorM's advice:

My guess is that he's turned off and assumes that you have lost interest.

How about calling him and telling him that you feel bad you haven't been able to go out with him but would like to meet him on (pick a day/hour you know you can make it)? This will let him know you're still interested.

I think it would be wise to try to make some contact with him before you all go away so that the week starts on the right foot between you two.