Monday, October 29, 2007
Maybe we should wait a week or something
Jes, 17, asks:
I've been "together" with a guy for over a month. We had sex for the first time 2 days ago. I brought up a conversation on having a relationship with him when we were cuddling, and this is what he exactly said: "I knew this would come up. I do want a relationship with you. Maybe we should wait a week or something." I said okay, and 2 minutes later he asked if I was mad, and I said no.
To be honest I have no idea what he meant. Please help.
VictorM's advice:
His suggestion is a good idea. You should never make a commitments like that right after having sex. People's ability to think long term under those circumstances isn't very good and they wind up making promises they regret. Waiting a while allows you two to decide if you still want a relationship when your brains are actually functioning.
I've been "together" with a guy for over a month. We had sex for the first time 2 days ago. I brought up a conversation on having a relationship with him when we were cuddling, and this is what he exactly said: "I knew this would come up. I do want a relationship with you. Maybe we should wait a week or something." I said okay, and 2 minutes later he asked if I was mad, and I said no.
To be honest I have no idea what he meant. Please help.
VictorM's advice:
His suggestion is a good idea. You should never make a commitments like that right after having sex. People's ability to think long term under those circumstances isn't very good and they wind up making promises they regret. Waiting a while allows you two to decide if you still want a relationship when your brains are actually functioning.
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