Lilly, 14, asks:

I'm kinda confuse here. I like a guy who is 2 years older than me, but I heard that he has a girlfriend which I don't know for sure. In school, when we're changing classes I would look at him and he sometimes says hi or smiles and I smile at him all the time. He talked to me once or twice and the last time he talked to me for a short time after he waved at me when he was looking my way so I waved back and I walked with my friend to the school gate and he came to us with his two other friends and he asked me where I live and then I had to go. But the thing is my friends tell me he's just being nice to me and like he does the same thing with other girls, he even poked my friend on the waist and I heard a rumour that he kissed a girl. Sometimes when my friend calls me in the corridor he would at my friend or when they mention my name infront of him he would look at them. I'm not sure if this means anything but I really like him. Usually when he's with his friends he's like loud and when they see me him and his friends would look at me and when they came to talk to me he was like quiet but loud at the same time.

I don't know what this means but my friend told me he's like a player and said I shouldn't go out with him because he has a girlfriend who is not from our school. I don't know what to do.

What does this mean? What should I do? Does he like me? Could there be any chance that he likes me? I want him to want me and I want him to ask me out. I'm pretty sure he knows that I like him because every time I see him and he looks at me I would smile at him which my friend said it's pretty obvious. Please tell me what to do. I really need your help.

And also, there's a guy who likes me but he's younger than me like by a year or two (I'm not sure). The thing is, I don't like him as much as I like the other guy but then my friends told me to go out with this guy because he's hotter but whatever.

Seriously, I'm confuse here. I really don't know what to do. What should I do? I just want the guy I want, not the guy who likes me and I don't like him. I want the guy I like and how do I make him like me if he doesn't like me?

Thanks Vic!

VictorM's advice:

Lilly, don't listen to your friends; they have the wisdom of a rock star at a Holiday Inn.

Sounds like this boy likes you, but you may not be the only one he likes. See, once boys discover girls they have a hard time settling on one. Sorta like eating M&Ms -- can't have just one. For many guys, that phase passes and they settle on one; for many guys, the M&M analogy lasts a lifetime. Part of your job is figure out which guy is in what group.

So for now, keep doing what you're doing. Smile and be friendly. That's your best bet that he'll like you. And when you say hi to him, make sure you use his name.

Forget the younger boy. My lord, he could be only 12 years old; his pecker is still like a Gummi Worm. Stay focused on the guy you want.