Danielle, 22, from Louisiana, asks:

Hi Vic! I really need some advice. I had been dating this guy for 3 months and we were boyfriend/girlfriend for only two weeks. I broke up with him two days ago and it's taking a slight toll on me. I suspect that he only got with me to have sex with me because I told him when we first met that I don't have sex with a guy unless we are in a relationship because I enjoy meaningful sex and I also told him that I don't jump into relationships, hence the three months of dating before an actual relationship. Anyway, I also suspect that he was embarrassed to be seen with me and it took me awhile to catch onto it. Like I said we were dating for almost four months and I never met any of his friends (he claimed he didn't have any when I first met him) and his mom (whom I also never met) came down for his birthday and he wanted to have sex with me while his mom was at his house! Also, whenever we went out we always went where no one would probably know him. He was overly affectionate in private and barely stood next to me in public. We talked everyday of the 3 1/2 of knowing each other so I thought he liked me. He really didn't start to act like this until after we got together. I just feel totally used and cheapen by him because I feel like he only wanted sex (which we only had twice), but I'm not sure why he stuck around for three months to get it. Let me add that I'm very satisfied with the way I look, but my self-esteem has been bruised a little because I wanted to be desirable to the man I was with. I have never been in a situation like this before so I don't know how to help myself feel better about it. Please help me to sort this out.

VictorM's advice:

You say you think he only wanted you for sex, and then you say you want to be desirable to the man... wouldn't he wanting to have sex with you -- and was so patient to get it -- mean he found you very desirable? I think so.