Sarah, 22, from Oregon, asks:

My boyfreind/baby's daddy, moved out to OR, with me and our two month old son. After about a year and a half of ups and downs and rocky times, we stayed together but he decided to live with a freind and I moved with my parents. Now I am moving to Colorado, for a better job opportunity and he decided to go back to our home state AZ. He said it was because he missed his family and he wanted to save money and then decide where we would live, and he also threw in a marriage proposal complete with ring and in front of his entire family. Now he's gone. He calls once every couple weeks, keeps it brief, and hardly asks about our son..WTF??

VictorM's advice:

You can't rule out that his feelings for you have changed, but absent more concrete examples, I wouldn't jump to that conclusion.

Guys generally hate the phone and aren't as clingy with repetitive phrases as girls like them to be (I miss you... I miss you so much... I really miss you... Oh I miss you so... four, five times an hour... come on, it's just annoying), and he knows that if there's anything about his son he needs to know you'll tell him.

I know, it sounds a bit cold and distant, but his behavior is very consistent with the male view of the world. I'm not saying you should be happy about it, just realize that guys don't have the same needs as females, specially moms, do. Just because he doesn't call as often as you'd like or asks the questions you think he should, doesn't mean he doesn't care.