Bekkah, from Texas, asks:

I know you say a million times that once a guy knows you like him, he'll stop trying because you are no longer a challenge. I agree with you. However, is there a way that once you are with a guy, to continue to be a challenge? What are some ways to keep a guy's attention and keep him guessing? I'm not a big fan of flirting with other guys just to make mine jealous, I just figure there has to be another way to maintain a little bit of GOOD tension in the relationship. (Sex stuff is not what I'm asking about, I'm already a pro at keeping a guys attention in that area haha).

VictorM's advice:

Whatever you do, no flirting with other guys, no tests, and no mind games.

Start with looking to catch your guy doing something right rather than something wrong. That is, praise him and rewarding him when he does something that you consider took extra effort on his part and stop reprimanding him when he doesn't do it.

For example, if you want to go to a nightclub and he doesn't, say: "No problem, I'll go with the girls". No tricks, no teasing guys, but you certainly can invite your girl friends, dress nice, and go. When you come back tell him: "I had a nice time but it would have been more fun with you... maybe next time?" Even if he never catches on, at least you can have fun with friends.

Of course, there is a limit. At some point, if he doesn't respond, you have to ask yourself if this guy is right for you. Don't make the mistake of being with a guy that takes too much energy to mold to what you'd like.