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Wednesday, September 26, 2007
They spend next to no time together
Amber, 24, from ontario, asks:
My man and I spend next to no time together. We talk every other day sometimes for hours on the phone but I'll be lucky to see him twice a month. I already left him once because of it but he talked me into getting back together. What I don't understand is if he doesn't want to be with me why didn't he just leave me be when we were split up? He says he's just trying to get himself set up for life and when he's accomplished his goals then he can add me into his life, so to be patient. I'm so confused.
VictorM's advice:
You're just not a priority in his life. If he doesn't have the time for you now, during the courtship phase, he will have even less time later on. But later on won't happen. Count on him dumping you once he finds someone he can get into. For a guy in his 20's to be willing to see you just a couple of times of a month shows that you're just plan B. Right now you're just a sounding board, not a lover. And he needs a sounding board.
Not letting you be even though he doesn't see you and has other priorities is an indication of a self-obsessed greedy person. And such a person will always think of "me", never of "us". If you think he'll change, think again. Do you really believe that a person so goal oriented will run out of goals? Not likely.
My man and I spend next to no time together. We talk every other day sometimes for hours on the phone but I'll be lucky to see him twice a month. I already left him once because of it but he talked me into getting back together. What I don't understand is if he doesn't want to be with me why didn't he just leave me be when we were split up? He says he's just trying to get himself set up for life and when he's accomplished his goals then he can add me into his life, so to be patient. I'm so confused.
VictorM's advice:
You're just not a priority in his life. If he doesn't have the time for you now, during the courtship phase, he will have even less time later on. But later on won't happen. Count on him dumping you once he finds someone he can get into. For a guy in his 20's to be willing to see you just a couple of times of a month shows that you're just plan B. Right now you're just a sounding board, not a lover. And he needs a sounding board.
Not letting you be even though he doesn't see you and has other priorities is an indication of a self-obsessed greedy person. And such a person will always think of "me", never of "us". If you think he'll change, think again. Do you really believe that a person so goal oriented will run out of goals? Not likely.
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