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Friday, September 28, 2007
Somewhere along the line she lost trust in him
sindy, 22, from South africa, asks:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years and somewhere along the line I lost trust in him. It was obviously triggered by something. Can I ever trust him again because I see the signs but he says that I live in my own world and believe things that are not there.
VictorM's advice:
If you lost trust in him, your relationship is doomed.
Relationships are not a court of law. You do not require proof of guilt and you do not have to see everything with your own eyes. If your gut tells you something is wrong, something is wrong.
Even if he's ultimately innocent, it doesn't matter. It just means that something about him behaves in a way that arouses your suspicion. It may not be his fault, it may not be fair, but the implication is that you and him clash, that you're not a good match. Neither you nor him should want to live with accusations and suspicions.
Trust your instincts; they are probably right.
I have been dating this guy for 2 years and somewhere along the line I lost trust in him. It was obviously triggered by something. Can I ever trust him again because I see the signs but he says that I live in my own world and believe things that are not there.
VictorM's advice:
If you lost trust in him, your relationship is doomed.
Relationships are not a court of law. You do not require proof of guilt and you do not have to see everything with your own eyes. If your gut tells you something is wrong, something is wrong.
Even if he's ultimately innocent, it doesn't matter. It just means that something about him behaves in a way that arouses your suspicion. It may not be his fault, it may not be fair, but the implication is that you and him clash, that you're not a good match. Neither you nor him should want to live with accusations and suspicions.
Trust your instincts; they are probably right.
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