Jessica, 16, from NJ, asks:

I used to see a guy in the halls everyday in my school last year, and thought nothing of him. I know he is friends with one of my friends, but I never payed any attention to him. This summer he introduced himself to me at a party, and lately he's all I think about. He seems so sweet and interesting I just can't get enough. School started and I sit 2 tables away from him at lunch. After that party in the summer, he contacted me online. I made a joke that he would forget me the next day, and as soon as I came home he found me on myspace. I see him everyday in school, and he always says hi. Sometimes he IMs me on AOL.. but he never asked me to hang out or anything. We were talking about relationships, which he brought up, so I figured he's interested. Some time passed and I found out that he hooked up with a girl over the weekend. I know its too early, maybe he wants to get to know me or whatever, but I just can't get him out of my head. He has had plenty of opportunities to ask me out and he still hasn't. I should mention that he is one of the most, if not the most popular guy in school and me, well I'm kind of the new girl. I moved last year. He seems like a nice guy to me, and my friend told me he doesn't really date much because he grew up in our town and every girl knows him as just a friend. Something seems weird though, because another friend told me he is a player.

VictorM's advice:

I read your submission carefully but I didn't see a question in there. So I'm going to make an assumption.

It seems that he's a polite and friendly individual, which accounts in part for his popularity. So far he's being friendly but there's no sign that he's interested in you for anything other than friendship, at this time anyway. But if you continue to talk to him, and as he gets to know you better, good things could come out of it. So you really have nothing to lose by being friendly with him. Meanwhile, you can access for yourself just what type of guy he really is beyond the looks and the charm.