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Friday, September 28, 2007
One day out of nowhere he broke things off
Amanda, 21, from Virginia, asks:
So I started dating this guy back over the summer, then one day out of nowhere he breaks things off. A few weeks later, he says he regrets that decision. Then when school started back, he wanted to get back together... and I wanted to, too... only thing, I had not ever dated someone more than once. But then about a month later, he decides he's "done" with the relationship. One of his/my friends told me that he freaks out easily, and doesn't like to get too close to anyone. But then the other night, we were a little messed up and we ended up having sex again. I mean we were friends before, but now it seems like it'll be rather difficult to avoid having sex... we both agreed that we are VERY sexually compatible. I guess I just want to know, why this guy can't make up his mind about me?
VictorM's advice:
Oh, but he has made up his mind about you; he's not interested in a relationship with you! The times he comes back just shows weakness in his resolve, not strength in his feelings for you. Basically, you're like a bad habit.
And the sex part? Listen, guys can have sex with less emotional attachment than you have for your shoes, so the sex means nothing. If that's what you want from him, fear not. He'll be ready to go when you are.
So I started dating this guy back over the summer, then one day out of nowhere he breaks things off. A few weeks later, he says he regrets that decision. Then when school started back, he wanted to get back together... and I wanted to, too... only thing, I had not ever dated someone more than once. But then about a month later, he decides he's "done" with the relationship. One of his/my friends told me that he freaks out easily, and doesn't like to get too close to anyone. But then the other night, we were a little messed up and we ended up having sex again. I mean we were friends before, but now it seems like it'll be rather difficult to avoid having sex... we both agreed that we are VERY sexually compatible. I guess I just want to know, why this guy can't make up his mind about me?
VictorM's advice:
Oh, but he has made up his mind about you; he's not interested in a relationship with you! The times he comes back just shows weakness in his resolve, not strength in his feelings for you. Basically, you're like a bad habit.
And the sex part? Listen, guys can have sex with less emotional attachment than you have for your shoes, so the sex means nothing. If that's what you want from him, fear not. He'll be ready to go when you are.
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The same thing happened to me - Don't worry about it. Victor's right, my ex wasn't interested in me anymore either. You're not alone!!
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