Thursday, September 20, 2007
He suddenly stopped calling
Jennifer, 29, from Florida, asks:
This guy I have been seeing for about a month has suddenly stopped calling, but will text me instead. When he was calling, he would say "I'll call you tomorrow", but instead I would get a text. He will text that he can't wait to see me, but he never calls to make plans. So I stopped texting him to see what would happen, and he still didn't call. 3 days later I get another text just saying hello. Is he just stringing me along? Why won't he pick up the phone? I'm pretty sure he's seeing someone else, is this his way of keeping me around as backup? Is he afraid that if he talks to me I will press him for answers? If he's lost interest then why doesn't he just let it go, I gave him the chance by not contacting him!
VictorM's advice:
If you're pretty sure he's seeing someone else, and I'll assume you're right, then he's just keeping up a friendship with you. Really, why burn any bridges with you? He probably thinks you're a cool person and has some fondness for you, so there's no reason to disappear. The telephone makes the contact too personal; texting keeps some contact but it's much more impersonal.
If he really is seeing someone else, he's not fully into her yet. When he is, he will stop the texting you as well.
This guy I have been seeing for about a month has suddenly stopped calling, but will text me instead. When he was calling, he would say "I'll call you tomorrow", but instead I would get a text. He will text that he can't wait to see me, but he never calls to make plans. So I stopped texting him to see what would happen, and he still didn't call. 3 days later I get another text just saying hello. Is he just stringing me along? Why won't he pick up the phone? I'm pretty sure he's seeing someone else, is this his way of keeping me around as backup? Is he afraid that if he talks to me I will press him for answers? If he's lost interest then why doesn't he just let it go, I gave him the chance by not contacting him!
VictorM's advice:
If you're pretty sure he's seeing someone else, and I'll assume you're right, then he's just keeping up a friendship with you. Really, why burn any bridges with you? He probably thinks you're a cool person and has some fondness for you, so there's no reason to disappear. The telephone makes the contact too personal; texting keeps some contact but it's much more impersonal.
If he really is seeing someone else, he's not fully into her yet. When he is, he will stop the texting you as well.
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