Casey, 19, from: Simi Valley, asks:

My boyfriend tends to check girls out in front of me. It bothers me a lot and I have told him. He said he is trying really hard not to look but he still does it. What should I do?

VictorM's advice:

Attractive girls are simply the most gorgeous creatures on the planet. I feel his pain. Yes, yes, I know, he should respect being with you, but as you said, he's trying. But it's so hard, even if you are with a girl you love. But as long as he doesn't flirt and doesn't stare, is he really disrespecting you?

You can keep giving him a hard time when he looks at a girl, but trying to force him to reject his natural instinct to admire the greatest masterpieces of Mother Nature sounds like an impossible task.

There are no emotional attachments to looking at girls. He's not trying to replace you. All guys look, just some are better at hiding it than others.

You could accept him looking at other girls as long as he does it discreetly. Why not? It's not like he has a switch to turn off his interest in looking at other girls. It's like an instinct, a natural reaction. Some people get goosebumps when they get a chill, they just can't help it. You might as well ask him not to blink. That's how similar the actions are.

Going further, why don't you join him? I mean, you must admit that some girls look great. You could comment on their hair, clothes, etc. or simply agree that some girl looks nice. No need to have any sexual connotation, it's simply admiring beauty. If you could rise above your insecurity you could turn unpleasant public moments into more enjoyable ones.

I know... many of those reading this will disagree, but that's a guy's point of view. I'm curious how many of you will have constructive advice for Casey beyond calling her boyfriend names or telling her to dump him.