April, 22, from Atlanta, asks:

Hey. I REALLY need your help. Here's the deal: I've been dating this really amazing guy for about a month in a half now. We have been taking things really slow and I like that. The other night we had a big misunderstanding. He told me that he couldn't see himself having sex with me, which I took as him saying he wasn't attracted to me (he later explained that what he meant was that he didn't want sex to mess things up since we're taking it slow). This is probably where I messed up: I asked if that meant that he wouldn't want to be in a relationship with me ever because I thought he was saying he wasn't sexually attracted to me. The next thing I knew he told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship and that I was trying to complicate things, which came a a shock to me because I thought he did want one eventually and was not what I was trying to say at all. I really, honestly wasn't trying to back him in a corner or demand he be a boyfriend, but that's how he took it. I felt that since he made it known that he didn't want what I wanted I'd cut my losses so I stopped talking to him for two days. When we finally talked we discussed what happened and realized it was I big misunderstanding. I see that he is a really sweet guy that just wants to take things slow and I want to as well, but know it feels like I've revealed too much and I've really messed things up. Please tell me that this can be repaired because I now see that he was trying to get things to lead up to a relationship. I know a totally messed up. If you help me I owe you big time!!!

VictorM's advice:

You didn't mess anything up. He now knows you like him and that's not a bad thing. That you two were mature enough to talk about the misunderstanding matters more. As long as you don't press him, he'll probably be fine. Just let him take things a bit slower.

There's nothing to repair because nothing is wrong. Just proceed with him as if you guys didn't have that conversation. Don't bring it up again, unless he does. Otherwise, just keep seeing him and enjoying each other's company.